Focus On Winning!

No matter what you are going through, set your focus on winning side. Understand that winning is a process, not an event; because just as soon as one challenge is over, you'll be faced with another one.

We are constantly in process of being victorious, or deciding to quit. Oh… Ugly word. You notice I didn't say we are in process of winning or failing. No no. We are not designed to fail. We are designed to win, win, win!

I can hear someone now, "well, why do I always end up as lucky as only man in a women's prison with a fist full of pardons? Because somewhere along road you have developed a quitters mindset. Now, don't get mad at me, stay with me.

Quit Like A Bad Habit!

I didn't say, you always quit, or, that you always lose. But, there is a mind-set that can become so subtle, that it will cause us to focus on fear of failure or quitting. If a person is plagued with this mind-set, he will waffle back and forth between fear of failure and quitting constantly.

Why? Well, because neither one is really what his heart wants to do. He really doesn't want to choose to do either one. Down deep inside he knows he was created to win. But, circumstances seem to always get him barking up wrong tree for a bone.

He knows he has qualities to become every thing in life he desires to be. Audibly, he may say, "he's dumber than a bag of hammers." In his heart he knows that's not true.

Between The Devil And The Deep Blue Sea!

But, there always seems to be a demon or some gremlin that wants to eat his lunch. Consequently, as time goes along, he develops a mind-set of quitting and failure. He just becomes beat-up!

Then there develops an emotion inside him that just says, "Whatever". And, then baptism of fire in his belly burns out like day old ashes. Once this happens, series of failures and times of quitting become every day occurrences till you finally hear him saying, "Frankly Scarlet, I don't give a da**."

He becomes very unhappy with himself but doesn't know how to turn it around. So, his life becomes a cycle of ups and downs, mostly downs. Without that fire of desire, he loses his passion. Without a passion, he has no focus, goal, or reason to live.

Pull Yourself Up By The Boot Straps!

At one time or another we are all faced with obstacles and challenges that look like they're going to bust our chops. The unfortunate thing is; usually life will not turn circumstances around on its own.

Therefore, we can sometimes find ourselves on back side of desert for long periods of time before something happens to turn tide. And, usually tide turns only when we take initiative and rid ourselves of fear of failure and that quitting mind-set.

Introverted children can be misunderstood at school and with relatives. It is our loving job as parents to advocate for our introverted children. But first we must understand and support their needs ourselves.

I recently interviewed Susan Harbison, an introvert and mother of one year old Emma Kate, also an introvert. Listen as Susan describes her experiences with her daughter. Notice Emma Kate’s introverted characteristics. Already at one year old, she is territorial, intense, has ability to focus and concentrate, gravitates away from people and things and is not always “friendly” by extrovert definitions.

Susan Harbison begins speaking about herself and her daughter, Emma Kate.

“As an introvert it is a delicate and thorny blessing to witness new life process of my tiny daughter, an introvert as well. It is delicate when I smoothly do right thing, easily solve problem or brilliantly stop tantrum because I understand her so well.

“It is thorny when I say ‘she is an introvert’ and people shush me quickly saying ‘you don't know that yet...maybe she's just taking it all in and she'll be life of party when she grows up.’