Relationship Tips: 16 Practical Dramatic Ways to Know if He/She is REALLY Changing

Written by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach

Every relationship hits a snag, or worse, a major crisis (such as infidelity), that demands significant change ifrepparttar relationship is to survive.

So...there are promises to change andrepparttar 142527 two of you embark upon a new path. You watch carefully.

"Can I trust this change? Is it permanent? temporary? How long will it last? Is he/she REALLY changing?"

Good questions. Here are 16 ways to know ifrepparttar 142528 change is going to last:

1. You notice opposite behaviors and nonverbal communication. Passivity becomes activity. Recklessness transforms into thoughtfulness. Aloofness turns into engagement.

2. You find yourself surprised. "Hmmmm, this hasn't happened before, but is really nice! I wonder where this came from? But, I will take it!"

3. He/she expresses more curiosity about you, about him/her self and others. He/she observes more closely what happens in relationships, without criticism or defensiveness.

4. You feel that somehow there has been a shifting of gears. There is a different rhythm or flow inrepparttar 142529 relationship. Much less effort. Much less tension.

5. You find yourself noticing how differently he/she talks. The words seem different. The emotional tone ofrepparttar 142530 words seem different.

6. The negative times, where you felt very stuck, helpless and hopeless, are less intense, happen less often and you seem to have more effective ways to move out of those times more quickly.

7. Your gut (intuition) tells you that this is ok. You begin to trust that part of you more implicitly. A part of you is clapping and cheering inside!

Are you feeling jealousy? Should you exit the lifestyle stage right?

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