Regain the Romance and Sparkle in Your RelationshipWritten by Kali Munro, M.Ed., Psychotherapist
If only relationships could be as exciting and romantic as when we first met. You know, all that intensity, enthusiasm, excitement and, of course, sex. I'm sure you've felt it: hating being apart, even for a short time; being unable to concentrate on anything else for very long; and waiting to be together again. When you are together, you hang onto every word, marvel at every part of your lover's body, and feel so wonderful, you smile all time.Does this all have to end? Are relationships doomed to predictable and boring routines of shopping, preparing meals, doing dishes, laundry, watching T.V., talking about work, taking care of kids, fighting, and sleeping? Definitely not. In fact, long term lovers can become even more enchanted with each other, since their passion grows from a deeper knowledge and fondness for each other. But time alone does not help a relationship to fourish-it requires a willingness to take risks, and special, persistent attention. Many couples love each other deeply, and genuinely enjoy each others' company, yet feel that relationship is stale. They long for some of old intensity, romance, and spontaneity. Others don't see need for that intensity, or even believe that it's possible to feel that again. They assume that intensity exists only at beginning of a relationship, and that "mature love" is more settled and less exciting. While how we feel toward each other certainly changes and evolves over years, truth is that our relationships reflect what we put into them. Children can be so carefree and loving because they have lived for just a few years-a much shorter time in which to accumulate negative experiences and build up feelings of resentment, anger, and mistrust. Relationships are similar to this. In beginning, we don't know each other very well, and aren't carrying around resentments from past interactions with each other. As years go by, these resentments accumulate. We no longer look at our partner with same fresh, unjudging eyes. It can help to look at our partner with a fresh look, let go of past baggage, and remember all reasons we love her/him so much. This means stretching past any resentments, and opening up to feeling and giving love more fully. So, how can you regain some of that old spark? Start out by thinking about your partner and all reasons that you love her/him. Ask yourself: what s/he means to you; what it is about her/him that you love; when was last time that you told her/him how much you love her/him in a real feeling way; and whether you have written her/him a love letter, or left a love note under her/his pillow or in her/his briefcase recently. Give yourself permission to creatively express your love. You can make a card, a little book of love, coupons s/he redeems with you for a massage, dinner, or whatever you know s/he'd enjoy. You could write a love poem, sing to her/him, or read an erotic passage out of a book. Don't be shy; your partner will be touched by love you put into it.
| | Healthy Eating Tips For Busy Women Written by Phil Beckett
Healthy Eating Tips For Busy Women By Phil BeckettThe following healthy eating tips will help you feel great, look great, carry out every-day activities better and empower you to keep it up for many years to come. Poor health for most women is build up of poor life-long nutrition choices and lack of exercise, both cardiovascular and weight exercise. If you make good choices now and exercise on a regular basis, you're less likely to become a strain on health system years later. And it’s been proven over and over for many years that women who do make these good choices tend to be healthier and live longer. You’ve probably heard most nutritionists say that breakfast is most important meal of day. And it is because if you eat breakfast you’ll not only gain fuel for a high-energy and productive day, but you’ll also have a tendency to make better food choices during remainder of day. The mistake most women make when making a choice for breakfast is to just eat cereal. And it doesn’t help with all of commercials out their telling us that cereal is all you need. Yes, cereals rich in fiber like bran flakes, oat bran, all-bran, and raisin bran are very healthy for you. And most types of cereal with a banana, strawberries, low-fat milk etc are very good for you. But it's important to know that while they may contain ample carbohydrates, calcium, fiber, other nutrients, are low in fat and easy and quick to make, they don’t contain nearly enough protein. And it’s protein that’s more than likely missing ingredient in your diet. Your muscles need protein, and cannot function properly without it. Women who attempt to lose fat and/or tone up their muscles, will get best results when they consume an ample amount of protein with breakfast. But it difficult to get good quality protein during breakfast, unless you were to eat a bunch of eggs and bacon, which of course would lead to a whole other problem So how do you get enough protein without eating fat? Well only way you can is to include Whey protein. Whey protein is a powdered supplement that you can buy in any health food store and most super-markets. All you have to do is either mix one scoop in with your cereal (it dissolves very easily) or just stir a scoop in a glass of water. Either way it’s best way to get protein you need at breakfast. Don’t focus on any one meal. All of your meals should be nutritionally well-balanced. Meaning they should contain protein, carbohydrates and some fat. Fat will help dramatically to keep your energy levels high. If you're dieting you need continually fuel your body throughout entire day. This means a minimum of 4, but preferably 6 meals each and every day. This way you'll have energy to exercise properly and won’t crave any large unhealthy meals.
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