It’s Never As Bad As You Imagine Helaine Iris © 2003“If you want fear on purpose, get a future.” Byron Katie
Have you ever noticed what you spend hours or days, or your lifetime for that matter, worrying about is never as bad when it comes to pass, as you imagined it would be?
I come from a long line of worriers. Maybe it’s genetic, maybe its cultural, who knows. I consider myself an expert on
matter. I remember being a little girl and worrying about everything, what if I got sick, what if nobody wanted to play with me, what if I died!
I managed to carry
art form of worrying into my adult life often projecting myself into situations, wondering “what if?” and having to dealing with
stress and anxiety of what I imagined was going to happen.
A few years ago I had a powerful experience that turned this all around.
I took myself on a pilgrimage to Hawaii. I was at a pivotal time in my personal growth and I was cultivating a deeper relationship with myself. I left my husband and family for two weeks and set off by myself to find Helaine.
I was registered to take a five-day workshop studying interspecies communication swimming with wild dolphins in
beautiful waters off of
Big Island. For
rest of
trip I would be on my own, with no plans exploring
magical island of Hawaii.
On one of
workshop days we were all to swim across Kealakekua Bay, which is about a mile wide. The bay is a famous dolphin hang out. The prospect of meeting up with a pod of dolphins was pretty exciting, yet I was a bit worried if I had
stamina to swim a mile. What if I got tired, what if I get left behind
group. What if I drowned?
About a quarter of
way into
swim I did get tired; and even though Hawaiian waters are warm I was getting cold. I knew there was no way I could make it across
bay so I decided I had better swim back to shore.
As I was swimming back, I realized I was swimming against
tide and it would take even more effort to get back than it took to get out. I was getting colder by
minute (weighing 110 pounds with little body fat) and I was beginning to feel signs of hypothermia. I was scared. Here was exactly what I was worried about coming true!