Reflecting on the History of WomenWritten by Stella Ramsaroop
I’ve made a conscience effort to truly contemplate and study story of women this month since it is nationally recognized as Women’s History Month. I expanded my studies beyond just recent feminist history, which in my opinion is a definite highlight of our history to this point, to include our history since start of written record. However, this was not as easy as it would seem since vast majority of surviving records are his-story and are very short on details of her-story. In an attempt to keep women “in their place,” those who have followed Judeo-Christian religions destroyed most records of significance of women in early history. This is clearly seen in Bible when numerous times Jews are told to “completely destroy nations” who worshiped these other gods, of which many were actually goddesses. It’s significant, I think, that at one point in history females shared title of divinity with males – and at times reigned as sole divinity. This part of our history shows woman in all her glory, not as fallen creature of Bible who must forever submit to a subservient position to man because she supposedly ate a forbidden fruit and coerced him to do same. It’s time truth was known. Not presupposed “truth” garnered from what we have always been told is reality. That reality is severely lacking in other half of story. We see reality as we have always been taught to see it. If someone teaches me from young that a certain color is blue, and subsequently others then reinforce that teaching in my family, community, church, government, school, etc. – then I will believe color is actually blue. But what if they are all wrong? What if blue is really yellow but no one wants to challenge errant teaching because one who said it was blue in first place claimed to be speaking on behalf of God? In end though, just because everyone believes this color to blue does not make it indeed blue. In fact, it is still yellow. That is exactly what has happened in feminine history. Only this teaching has gone so long without being challenged, for fear of being ostracized or even at times killed, that it is now accepted as truth. In process real truth has been lost.
| | Wanted: Satisfaction!Written by Patrice Fagnant-MacArthur
"Newsweek" recently published an article on "Mommy Madness." (Feb. 21, 2005) Judith Warner writes of "the push to be perfect," that type of hands-on mothering society expects of women today is "utterly incompatible with any kind of outside work, or friendship, or life." Jeff Opdyke, who writes "Love & Money" column in Wall Street Journal recently moved with his family from New Jersey to Louisiana so that his wife Amy could take a new full-time managerial position (she had previously worked part-time). Over course of three columns, he wrote of difficult toll move and change in roles had taken on him, his wife, and their eight-year-old son. When it was Amy's turn to speak, she told of feeling overwhelmed and struggling to balance her high-pressure job with a busy family. Life just wasn't working as she had pictured it would.Yes, motherhood is hard, but mothers are not only women who suffer from a chronic case of dissatisfaction. Society is somehow always telling women that we should be doing something or being someone other than who we are right now. If we are single, people ask when we are going to get married. If we are married, people ask when we are going to have children. If we have children and go to work, we should be at home. If we have children and stay home, people wonder why we are "wasting" our education. If we are young, we should look older. If we are getting along in years, we should frantically chase that fountain of youth, whether it comes in a bottle, a pill, or operating room. We should be thinner, prettier, and more successful. We have internalized these messages to such a degree that our loudest critic just may be voice inside our own heads! We try so hard to measure up to some ideal vision of whom we should be and feel defeated when we don't meet that perfected version of ourselves. So, then, how do we stop cycle? How do we stop defining ourselves by what world expects us to be, and instead focus on life God intended for us? First, we must embrace idea that our worth comes from God, not from our personal achievements or our possessions. God shaped us in our mother's womb. He knows us and loves us for who we are and where we are right now. Yes, we may be a little rough around edges, but as long as we keep trying to live each day according to God's will, we are working at making those edges smooth. The old adage that "God isn't finished with me yet" has a great deal of truth to it. We are all works in progress.
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