Recipe for a Healthy Relationship

Written by Alina Ruigrok -

First off, it is important to ask yourself what you consider a real relationship to be. You need to understand what your needs and desires are from another person, and what you are willing to give them. This way, you can see early in your first dates, if you wish to continue and work towards a future together, and ifrepparttar other person feelsrepparttar 101863 same of course (both sides count).

Once you have decided to have an official relationship, you both need to remember what broughtrepparttar 101864 two of you together inrepparttar 101865 first place. For instance, what attracted you to each other both physically and emotionally? What do you admire about his or her personality? This will help not takingrepparttar 101866 other for granted, which can often happen after two people have been together for a long time. This does not meanrepparttar 101867 love is fading, but it does mean that there is lack of effort. People tend to get lazy after a while, because they feel comfortable and safe. This problem can be solved when both people are willing to makerepparttar 101868 time and effort.

Everyone is independent in their own beliefs and ideas about things, so never expect a person to always see things your way. However, it is important to have similar expectations out of a relationship, if you wish to avoid frequent arguments. Look for things like whether or not it is important forrepparttar 101869 both of you to see each other everyday, or have sex often. While seeing each other on a daily basis seems wonderful and healthy to some people, others may feel smothered and need space to have some alone time. Or if sex is onrepparttar 101870 top of your list, but is not on your partners, you might want to consider that, unless you do not mind waiting or taking care of yourself once in a while…depending on how long you have to wait!

Patience is one ofrepparttar 101871 main keys to a healthy relationship. There are times when our partner will not respond in a way in which is pleasing to us, but this does not mean we have to take it so seriously or personally. Always slow down, take a deep breath and think of reasons why your partner may be acting a certain way. Assuming and jumping to conclusions is always an unhealthy step to take because it shows your partner that they are not entitled to act freely and they feel attacked, not to mention it shows that you automatically assumerepparttar 101872 worst of them. Give your partner some time and let them know that you will be there for them when they are ready to talk. No matter whatrepparttar 101873 situation may be, patience is golden in a relationship, unless your partner never wants to discuss matters with you (which would mean you need counseling or leaverepparttar 101874 relationship).

Honesty is also atrepparttar 101875 top of everyone’s list when it comes to what people want out of a relationship. A person needs to know that they can trust their mate because it builds a zone of safety and comfortableness around them. They need to know that they can at least rely on their loving partner to tell themrepparttar 101876 truth, no matter what. Being human means NOT being perfect, which means we will make mistakes. Now, we should not let that fact lead us to making mistakes we already know are wrong ahead of time. If your partner deliberately makes mistakes or you knowingly make mistakes, it shows that you or your partner lacks respect and care forrepparttar 101877 other. This is unhealthy forrepparttar 101878 relationship. What is healthy however, is realizing thatrepparttar 101879 mistake you committed is a mistake. You or your partner need to know that what they did was wrong and they need to feelrepparttar 101880 sympathy for what they did. Once you or partner have realized this, you can then figure out a way of how you will confess your wrong doings torepparttar 101881 other.

Prescription for a Broken Heart

Written by Alina Ruigrok -

Being heartbroken is a pain that no one can understand until they have experienced it for themselves. You obviously have, therefore are aware of how fragile your heart is right now. Healing a broken heart will take time, but is not impossible, though it may feel that way atrepparttar time. It is never an easy process to go through, but withrepparttar 101862 right prescription, you will be on your way to recovery and happiness again.

The first thing you should keep in mind is that it is okay to feel sad and grieve about what happened and that you are not stupid for doing so. It is perfectly normal to feel sad and cry after a break up. You have invested most of your time and all of your love and interest into your ex-partner; therefore will go through a sad and painful withdrawal. It is notable that you not grieve all on your own. Sure, there will be times when you will just want to be alone and undisturbed. However, it is important that you talk to your friends and family about it. Talking about it is not only healthy, but will mend your heart quicker because you will releaserepparttar 101863 thoughts and facts that are hurting you so much. Seeking professional advice will be a great help to you as well because your mind will open up and see new perspectives and understandings of what happened. It will help you gather your strength, pick yourself up, and findrepparttar 101864 happiness you deserve to have.

Acceptingrepparttar 101865 fact that you and your ex-partner are no longer together is a necessity if you are going to start mending your broken heart. If you catch yourself unable to function due to constantly thinking about your ex or repeatedly calling or visiting him or her for another chance, then chances are you are suffering from love addiction and should seek counseling. Discontinuing a serious relationship is emotionally challenging and can drive you to do things that are unhealthy for your self-being. To avoid entering such hazardous areas, keep yourself occupied. Go out with your friends and family to help get your mind offrepparttar 101866 break up. It is best to spend as less time alone as you can inrepparttar 101867 first few weeks of your breakup so that your emotions can slowly and patiently form back into their normal pattern.

Fightrepparttar 101868 thoughts that tell you that you are a failure and are to blame forrepparttar 101869 end of your relationship. When a relationship ends it means thatrepparttar 101870 two of you were no longer compatible and that always takes two, not just you. Instead of beating yourself up over what has transpired, examine your ex-relationship by listingrepparttar 101871 things you enjoyed most about it and thenrepparttar 101872 things that disappointed you and what you believe really causedrepparttar 101873 breakup. Look atrepparttar 101874 relationship as a learning experience and an opportunity to improve your relationship skills, and a way to realize what you truly need and want from a romantic relationship.

Learning to forgive yourself and your ex-lover will speed uprepparttar 101875 healing process forrepparttar 101876 reason that you will feel more peaceful and calm about it. Hating your ex will only build up tension and stress in your life, causing your emotions to slow down from getting back to order. One way to avoid bitterness against your ex-partner is to look atrepparttar 101877 breakup as a favor. Appreciate their honesty of no longer wanting to pursuerepparttar 101878 relationship, instead of giving you high hopes for a possible future together. It is always an advantage to exit a relationship that had no chances to survive than to be misled.

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