Real Families Have Fights - How to Keep the Holidays HappyWritten by Dr. Dorree Lynn
Due to complexity of our new normalcy, achieving wonderful holiday cheer may take a little extra work this year. For many people, Thanksgiving heralds a month of myths often culminating in January depression. Newspapers, magazines, big and little screens and our own childhood wishes propel us towards dreams of wonderful Thanksgiving dinners, Chanukah gelt, Christmas gifts and New Year's revelry replete with resolutions almost surely broken within month.
Dreams of perfect family dinners with everyone sitting down delighting in each other's company remain with us as we go “brain dead” and forget fight we had with Uncle Joe two years ago and reality that we can't stand Aunt Liz's two bratty kids. We try to ignore or we harbor resentment about events such as year dog bit your cousin and you remembered all too late that you were allergic to cats and that your grandmother had two.
December is often a very stressful and sad month, when all while we hear jingle bells and are told how happy we will be. Real families are complex, composed of different personalities and values. Sometimes they really are able to get along for extended periods of time. Other times, differences are too pronounced and being “flesh and blood” isn't enough to make everyone get along or even like each other.
Additionally, there are so many divorced families, single families and blended families that longed for image of Norman Rockwell's traditional family is rapidly fading. Children have to be shared and shunted between households. Families splinter and new mates appear. Religious and political beliefs differ and all while everyone gets exhausted from working so hard to get along.
Some families actually do get along but, even in best of families, there is usually a point where someone has to get away and breathe their own bit of fresh air. The best gatherings are usually those where there is enough space to get away to be by oneself for a while and those that don't tend to go on endlessly for days. At times, a seemingly wonderful event can end with an unexplained hurt feeling or sudden eruption. Someone, usually innocently, says that one word or opinion too many and what had been a wonderful warm sense of eternal bliss flares into overt or covert chaos. If a version of this has happened in your family, don't feel guilty or badly about it. You are not alone or unique. Real families do fight.
Dear Tech SupportWritten by Dr. Dorree Lynn
Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and noticed that new program began making unexpected changes to accounting modules, limiting access to flower and jewelry applications that had operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0. In addition, Husband 1.0 uninstalled many other valuable programs, such as Romance 9.9 but installed undesirable programs such as NFL 5.0 and NBA 3.0. Conversation 8.0 no longer runs and Housecleaning 2.6 simply crashes system. I've tried running Nagging 5.3 to fix these problems, but to no avail.
I regretfully inform you that technical problems you raise often come with system purchased. Evidently you did not look around at similar systems or read fine print prior to making your purchase. Many in your situation try quick solutions, immediately try other systems, are driven to drink or in total frustration simply trash current system. Unfortunately our current state of technology remains limited and whatever your upgrades, there are always glitches.
I recommend you get technologically proficient with what you have, learn every default capability you can and keep clicking buttons until one works. If your system crashes, wait. Sometimes you may have to turn off machine and give it a rest. Miraculously, for unknown reasons, glitches may disappear. Another tool to use with your new upgrade is patience. I understand this is not what you bargained for, but it helps. There are times system will right itself if you simply wait long enough. And, trust me, you will never know why.