Raising Happy Diabetic Kids Part I Help Your Child Develop Self-Confidence

Written by Russell Turner


This isrepparttar first in a series of articles I am about to embark upon concerning this subject. As my family gets older and matures with this disease I think back torepparttar 114327 early days and wonder why aren't we all on medication for depression? Why don't we have standing twice a week appointments with a psychiatrist? How did we end up so normal?(whatever that is) As I look back this didn't happen by accident, nor am I Super Dad, and I didn't plan it out step by step. It was mostly just paying attention, luck, and decent communication between my girls and me, granted sometimes atrepparttar 114328 top of our lungs.

The first thing I suggest you do is very important. Remember, our children are who they had in mind when they coinedrepparttar 114329 phrase "monkey see monkey do". Trust Yourself! It's okay to do it your way. There're three components to raising happy kids, diabetic or not. They are Self-Confidence, Self-Reliance, an Self-Control. The more of these components your monkeys see in you,repparttar 114330 more of these components you will see in your monkeys! I'm going to put out some ideas here but you'rerepparttar 114331 boss of your situation. Do it your way.

Upon readingrepparttar 114332 three components you might ask "but where is self esteem?" I'll save that particular ramble for another day. Let me just assure you that if your child has self-confidence, self-reliance, and self-control then self-esteem comes naturally.

What is Self-Confidence? Self-Confidence is:

Trusting your ability to form and sustain relationships

Trusting your ability to complete various tasks well, knowing that others value your abilities

Trusting your ability to manage new siuations

Trusting your own judgements and common sense

As you can see trust is a key element of self-confidence. When our children don't have that measure of consistency and predictability in their lives it becomes difficult for them to gainrepparttar 114333 necessary trust either in themselves or in others to become self-confident. So if our children see thatrepparttar 114334 people who are most important to them (us as parents) trust them and will provide them with a consistant environment, they will begin to trust themselves, their judgements, and those ofrepparttar 114335 people around them. This isrepparttar 114336 beginning of common sense.(Yahoo!)

How do our children acquire Self-Confidence? Self-Confidence comes from:

Being accepted for who you are

Having someone show confidence in you

Knowing there is something you are good at

Having firm expectations of other people's behavior

Not being afraid of failure

Developing competence withrepparttar 114337 saftey of a parent close by

Seeing others you admire and copy, being confident and happy

It seems so easy when you write it down. When you think about it three main components have to be in place: Trust and Predictability, competence, and sociability.

Raising Happy Diabetic Kids Part II Help Yor Child Develop Self-Reliance

Written by Russell Turner


This isrepparttar second article in a series I am writing about how to raise happy diabetic children. You can findrepparttar 114326 first article titled Help Your Child Develope Self-Confidence in our article archives.

Sometimesrepparttar 114327 phrase "happy diabetic kids" seems to be an oxymoron. Often it seems all ofrepparttar 114328 dark powers ofrepparttar 114329 diabetes universe are aligned against you. You wonder if there isn't some evil house elf behindrepparttar 114330 scenes just making everyone's life miserable on purpose. Not being graduates of Hogwarts School Of Magic we can't just wave a magic wand and make it all better. We must prepare for life with diabetes and we must prepare our children. Self-Reliance is a critical skill for diabetic children to master. Think of all ofrepparttar 114331 responsibilities that go into daily diabetes care. We all realize that we must keeprepparttar 114332 responsibilities we put upon our children age appropriate. Nonrepparttar 114333 less, in most school aged childrenrepparttar 114334 ability to take some responsibility for their own care goes a long way in giving them some feelings of control over their diabetes. Last month I mentioned there are three components to raising happy children. Self-Confidence, Self-Reliance and Self-Control. No I still haven't forgotten Self-Esteem we'll get there. I'm still ofrepparttar 114335 opinion that with these first three components your child can't help but develope Self-Esteem.

What is Self-Reliance?

Self-Reliance isrepparttar 114336 ability to manage on your own: to know how to manage your time, to function and think independently, combined withrepparttar 114337 ability to solve problems. With self-reliance, there is no need for other people's approval before moving forward or doing something new. It's also un-neccessary for constant guidance on how to achieve a goal. you can rely on yourself. Self-reliance is about tasks and skills -- knowing how to do things, how to achieve things or how to manage things. It also includesrepparttar 114338 ability to be alone and to think things through on your own. Self-reliance is broader than self-confidence. Self-confidence relates to what we can do, to specific skills. Self-reliance is about being independent, creative and self-sufficient; having confidence in our inner-selvs to enable us to adapt and manage on our own.

Self-Reliance helps us become:

Self-reliance is also having confidence in your own ideas. It is about being able to see things through to completion. It is about not being afraid of setting goals, and not being stopped by fear of failure. There is a common belief thatrepparttar 114339 world is made up of three diffrent types of people:

those who make things happen;

those who watch things happen;

those who notice nothing until after then ask, "What happened?"

Those who have good self-reliance (and self-confidence, and self-control) develope self-esteem and make things happen. If we want our children to be able to make things happen, we don't have to think on a grand scale. It doesn't mean we all should want our children to be like Bill Gates, or Nobel Prize winners. We don't need to have our children achieve on a scale that makes a difference to others, We should aim to give our children a measure of self-reliance that allows them to keep better control of their own lives and keep choices open for them.

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