Ruth has lived quite
life, one full of its ups and downs. She is quick to point out that she has learned to see
good in everything. That is until
subject of ‘that horrible lady’ comes up.Ruth is
matriarch of a dear and loving family, though she doesn’t see them as often as she would like.
“Since
children moved from Parma to start their own lives, it’s hard. They are so busy …”
Ruth was
primary care provider for her husband Henry until he passed away in 1997. Ruth has spent most of her life as a care provider, always giving. She was
eldest of five children, ‘… in those days, it was expected that
daughters help with
younger ones and with
household chores…’ she reminisced with me as we leafed through
family photo album.
Ruth is 87 years old this year and has been living alone since 1997. She is in good health, however
daily chores around
home were becoming increasingly difficult. She decided to hire help. Ruth turned to her church bulletin and found a ‘Home Care Company’ advertised.
“The ad was in
church bulletin, I assumed this was a good company,” her voice cracking from
pain and embarrassment this service eventually caused her.
Ruth is not alone in
fact that she is widowed and lives alone. According to
‘2002 A Profile of Older Americans’ published by
Administration on Aging (http://www.aoa.gov/aoa/stats/profile/4.html) 41% of women age 65 and over, are widowed and live alone.
Unfortunately, Ruth is also not alone in
fact that she became victim to fraud. According to U.S. Senator Larry Craig, ranking member of
U.S. Senate Special Committee on Aging, ‘Vulnerable elders are being abused, neglected and exploited within their own homes and communities at an a alarming rate.’ But, not in Parma, right? Wrong.