"Preliminary Steps To Self-Confidence"

Written by John Q. Miller

The first step in developing your self-confidence is to conduct an intelligent self-examination.

Poor self-confidence is a like a disease, to be diagnosed as carefully as any other sickness. Poor self-confidence arises largely from allowing your mind to habitually dwell upon negative thoughts of doubt, failure, and inefficiency. This negative power can become so great, that it affects almost every aspect of your life.

However, when you have a firm, decisive, and positive disposition, it is curious to see howrepparttar space clears around you, and leaves you room and freedom.

Confidence begets confidence! A strong self-confidence will often safeguard your interests and give you an abiding sense of security. It makes you feel equal to almost any undertaking, however difficult, leading you to think and believe that, "They can conquer who believe they can."

Indecision is a frequent cause of poor self-confidence. Many people hesitate to take a step one way orrepparttar 138151 other lest they dorepparttar 138152 wrong thing, and this spirit of irresolution and hesitation often leads them intorepparttar 138153 very mistakes they would avoid. "He who hesitates is lost," while he or she who develops self-confidence grows great and puts on "the dauntless spirit of resolution." The world generally accepts you at you own valuation. If you give an impression that you aren't confident, you mat be imposed upon and taken advantage of at almost every turn.

"Building The Will"

Written by John Q. Miller

The importance of will-power is recognized by most people, yet few deliberately give any time or thought to its development. Learning how to build and direct our will-power is a fundamental requirement for increasingrepparttar mighty power of our self-confidence.

Strengthening your will-power will confer many advantages and great power.

Think deeply uponrepparttar 138150 satisfaction that will come to you from doing things definitely and promptly, andrepparttar 138151 increased self-confidence that will surely follow fromrepparttar 138152 habit of finishing everything that you undertake in a thorough manner. Not only will developing a strong, well-directed will-power give you a daily advantage, it can also help you to realize your lifeís ambition.

There are many things we desire to avoid - such as poverty, pain, misfortune, and ill health; while there are things we much desire to have - such as wealth, power, knowledge, and independence. It is, however,repparttar 138153 intensity of our desire that counts for most.

Here is an example...

"I desire to become a good tennis player," says one.

"How strong is your desire?" asksrepparttar 138154 teacher. "Will you practice regularly every day for an hour?!"

"I donít think I can," saysrepparttar 138155 student, "because I am too busy duringrepparttar 138156 day, and at night I am too tired."

"What personal sacrifices are you ready to make?"

"None," isrepparttar 138157 answer.

"Then," repliesrepparttar 138158 teacher, "your desire is not strong enough to make you a good tennis player."

Now sometimes an idea must be repeated many times before an enduring impression can be made upon your mind.

This is illustrated in modern methods of advertising. The first time you see an announcement, it may not impresses you. But if it is repeated again and again, in newspaper, magazine, television - there is a magic number of impressions that will lead you to become a purchaser.

Mental habits are established inrepparttar 138159 same way. A suggestion is made to your mind once, twice, a hundred, or a thousand times. Some day this repeated suggestion will become a fixed habit, and fulfill its duty subconsciously. Simple reiteration is a very powerful tool. For example, if a shy person were to repeat aloud for a few minutes daily, with earnestness and concentration, a list of words such as courage, valor, bravery, gallantry, intrepidity, pluck, backbone, and audacity - he or she would shortly find these qualities being incorporated in his or her own personality.

We must be particularly careful about outside influences (the Dark Side for us Star Wars fans).

Once a certain course of conduct is decided upon after mature consideration, we must block out and not yield torepparttar 138160 interposition of negative people and naysayers who advise an altogether different course. Many people that tell you something won't work or otherwise attempt to divert you from pursuing your goal, only do so because they too would like to attemptrepparttar 138161 same or a similar goal - but do not haverepparttar 138162 will-power strong enough to overcome their fear of failure.

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