Poor Little Rabbit: The Runaway Bride

Written by Virginia Bola, PsyD

The airwaves crackle with speculation aboutrepparttar Georgia woman who just couldn't face her long-planned wedding. Law enforcement is deciding if they should prosecute or try to recouprepparttar 137407 almost 100,000 dollars spent when it was believed that she had been abducted.

What'srepparttar 137408 problem? Her fiance states that he still loves her and wants to marry her. The vendors forrepparttar 137409 600-guest wedding will get paid anyway, without any ofrepparttar 137410 work. The families' pride will eventually be restored and their embarrassment erased.

What doesrepparttar 137411 hoopla say aboutrepparttar 137412 state of our society? In other eras, withoutrepparttar 137413 mass communication apparatus available today, people could just disappear, and often did. When someone drops out now, we assume foul play because we are so inured to its occurrence. Is it her fault that a manhunt was launched? Her initial claim that she had been abducted was patently false; her real act of running away was an emotional jolt to her family but surely not againstrepparttar 137414 law, nor was it forrepparttar 137415 California housewife who chucked everything and went to Las Vegas.

Or is there an obscure statute somewhere that prohibits us from shipping out with no notice and no apology? If we are not avoiding debts or crimes, why can't we go wherever we want?

Our society is so organized and our identities so rigidly bound with numbers and personal history that we can no longer escape ourselves. Wherever we go, we can be traced: social security numbers, names, dates of birth, bank account numbers, fingerprint archives, Internet droppings, medical and dental records. Where does it stop?

The Cult Of Celebrity

Written by Virginia Bola, PsyD

Every day, we are privy to new and ever more lurid details of Michael Jackson's strange lifestyle. We always knew he lived in a fairy tale world where he honestly believed that he was white and mainstream and emotionally healthy. Whether his peccadillos were as innocent as he maintains is forrepparttar jury to decide but regardless of whether he is guilty as accused, his behavior certainly never even remotely exhibited any level of maturity orrepparttar 137406 ability to make rational decisions beyondrepparttar 137407 "I want it now" level of a young child. And yet, daily, his "fans" turn out to support him, even fainting inrepparttar 137408 courtroom, overwhelmed byrepparttar 137409 stress of their idol under siege.

What is it about fame and celebrity that so grips us? Do we have no real life of our own? We live vicariously through our hero's existence and eradicate our own individuality to become simply a follower/

Wouldrepparttar 137410 trial of a no-name alleged child molester pack a courtroom? Of course not. The Jackson trial is important, and constantly reported, because of a famous name. Too many of us confuserepparttar 137411 fame that outwardly attached to rock stars, movie stars, royalty stars, sport stars, and political stars, withrepparttar 137412 inner character ofrepparttar 137413 individual who bearsrepparttar 137414 name. We seerepparttar 137415 fašade painstakingly erected by legions of public relations specialists and image consultants and think that we are seeing something real. We cannot believe thatrepparttar 137416 dark underside really exists because we "know Michael" (or Kobe, or O.J.) and "he wouldn't do anything like that."

Scott Peterson was recently convicted of double murder. Whether he really committedrepparttar 137417 crimes is besiderepparttar 137418 point -- in his trial he was indisputably revealed as a self-centered, immature philanderer withrepparttar 137419 morals of a sewer rat. Yet his first week on death row generated 85 letters per day, mainly from women, several offering proposals of marriage!

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