Please Listen, Don’t Just Hear Me!Written by Barbara White
cusing on that one sound, it becomes clearer and more distinct, than many of other sounds that are there.In relating with other people listening is a skill that needs to be learned. It is not merely hearing them give an account, or relay some information. Listening means to pay thoughtful attention to what a person is saying with mind intent on understanding message to be delivered. The art of listening also involves watching person’s body language, maintaining eye contact, asking for clarification when needed and also listening for unspoken message. If you truly listen, you are able to make a connection with someone without necessarily speaking yourself. The skill of listening is frequently overlooked, or given a low priority in our communication today. Yet everybody enjoys talking with a good listener! A major factor to a person having poor listening skills is that they are too self focused. People fail to listen carefully because they are too concerned trying to be interesting themselves, rather than be interested in person they are talking to. They falsely believe that to be liked and accepted they must demonstrate their intelligence and knowledge with their words or comments. They may cover up their own nervousness and insecurity by constantly talking to fill air. Talking makes them feel good, and they don’t consider other person, rather just take advantage of having an audience Many times people believe if someone is telling them about a challenge that they are having, that it is a cue to jump in and start solving problem. However, most people wish only to have a sounding board and just to have you listen. To take over disempowers other person.
| | Who wants to carry on being a failure?Written by Douglas Titchmarsh
Who wants to carry on being a failure?Failure. Not a great word is it? It is a very negative word, it says nothing good happened at all. But it's still a word that is used a lot by so many people. Here in UK as this is being written there is a huge buzz in media about an alternative phrase for word failure. This buzz centres around a group of school teachers who have decided that failure is not an option for children they teach. Now they just have "deferred success". Of course media is sensationalising phrase as Political correctness, but I can see where they are going with this. Deferred success, I like sound of it don't you? It was said by someone (and repeated by many) that you haven't failed until you actually stop trying. When you look right at it, deferred success means exactly same thing. In a classroom they will make you do something over and over until you get it right, so until they give up doing it, no one has failed. If they eventually grasp lesson then their success was only deferred until a later time.
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