Has this ever happened to you? You plan to go out on web and gather some information. While you are out in cyberspace, you notice an ad for something that is not related to what you are looking for. Since it looks really interesting, you click on ad anyway. By time you are done clicking from one interesting ad to next, you have lost two hours. Now you still have to go out and look for your original material. It's happened to all of us. The key is to stay focused on your planned task.

Learning how to establish and maintain a loving, supportive relationship is much like creating a beautiful garden. It takes information, planning, thought, skill, time, and most of all, attention. Like many gardeners, you learn your skills and styles from your parents, close friends and relatives. You watch them from time you are little. They teach you both your roles in a relationship, and how to play them, through their example. This happens in every family and much of teaching is unintentional and unconscious. Many of you did not like what you saw and, yet, in your poorest moments, you may behave just that way. In angry, tense times, you revert to ways you learned in those early days! No wonder your relationships provide you with challenges that cause you to forget "honeymoon" period sometimes!