People Are Who They Want To BeWritten by Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, PhD
Choice isn't always a matter of being able to choose what happens to us. Life happens, and often without any say from us. However, our circumstances do not determine who we become. Only we have choice to determine that. Everyone is who he or she wants to be, regardless of what one might think. We all have choices and each choice leads to creation of who we are.
There is a great quote that states, "Everybody's a self-made man; but only successful ones are ever willing to admit it.". It does seem that we are more than willing to take credit for success we have become in life, but less willing to own areas where we are not so successful. The credit for those areas that are not so perfect seem to be reserved for our childhood, parents, a bad boss, spouse and on and on. However, in end only, we can determine how people and events in our lives will affect us. We can let them drag us down or we can use them as building blocks for a strong personal foundation.
You Can't Have An Intelligent Conversation With EveryoneWritten by Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, PhD
Intelligent conversation is one of life's pleasures. I love nothing better than to engage in conversation with someone who has ideas to share, different perspectives, and is interesting. An intelligent conversation is food for brain. All too sadly, not everyone can carry on an intelligent conversation. This has less to do with their intelligence quotient (IQ) than with their emotional quotient (EQ). Only a self-aware, self-confident person with excellent social skills has ability to engage in intelligent conversation.
Intelligent conversation happens when people come together with a win/win attitude, don't try to change anyone's opinion, and are open to new ideas. Intelligent conversation is bridge to greater understanding. People engage in intelligent conversation for no other reason but to explore, discover, and learn. There is no other agenda.
People who struggle with, or cannot hold, an intelligent conversation come with an agenda. They want to thrust their ideas onto others, get their point across, and will resort to personal attacks if necessary. They come with a win/lose mentality and are not interested in learning and discovering. His or her idea is only one that matters, and anyone who doesn't agree is a threat. Intelligent conversation with these types of people is impossible and dangerous.