People Are Like Tea Bags

Written by Dr. Dorree Lynn

Put them in hot water and they grow stronger — except for those that don’t.

On a recent trip to a distant state, my husband and I unexpectedly met a couple visitingrepparttar same sightseer’s monument that we were. After speaking for a while, one of those delightful and unexpected light bulbs went on and we realized they were related to two close friends of ours. So of course, we decided to hang out longer than we had planned and soon we were having dinner and talking as if we had to know everything we could about each other. We talked like long lost friends and because we knew we would probably never see each other again. We spoke secrets —repparttar 126306 way one does with their hairdresser orrepparttar 126307 person you sit next to on a plane. Instant intimacy secured withrepparttar 126308 sureness that no real intimacy or connection would ever develop.

They were a vivacious couple, happily married for over thirty years, developers of a thriving business and parents of three wonderful grown children. Eileen had beenrepparttar 126309 “bad” sister who was always in trouble,repparttar 126310 child, whose parents never expected to amount to anything positive. She had dropped out of high school and her parents had suggested that she get a job and not even bother finishing her basic education. Barbara, her “good” sister had breezed through school with excellent grades and a fine reputation. She had always made her parents proud. Barbara and her husband were our close friends. Although we thought we knew them relatively well, we had never heard about Eileen and her family. We thought it strange that we never knew that they existed.

Quite rightly so, Eileen and her husband, were very proud of their accomplishments. They were delighted withrepparttar 126311 fact that they had fooledrepparttar 126312 world and that they had played a cosmic joke on all who had predicted their failure. Following their own adventurous path, they had achievedrepparttar 126313 success that everyone told them they never would.

Give At The Office: Empty At Home

Written by Dr. Dorree Lynn

Asrepparttar stigma of seeking therapy has diminished, serious therapists have themselves become scapegoats and symbols for much that is wrong withrepparttar 126305 mental health field. This distrust ofrepparttar 126306 therapeutic professions comes at a time when there is an increasing unraveling of relationships, family, and community and society needs good therapists more than ever. Whilerepparttar 126307 Internet has brought us easy access to instant information and provided us with chat rooms to visit when we are lonely,repparttar 126308 Internet is itself responsible for many ofrepparttar 126309 new problems facing us, asrepparttar 126310 real structures that constitute a dependable emotional safety net are being eroded.

In an attempt to makerepparttar 126311 work place more inviting and employees more productive,repparttar 126312 new work environment may include amenities such as gyms, child-care centers, kitchens, valet and concierge services, sleeping rooms, and even rooms for worship. The underside of this shift towards “office as home” is that it is in direct competition with, and can seriously challenge,repparttar 126313 quality of family life. Thus, while improvingrepparttar 126314 work place—a major and important cultural construct—is all torepparttar 126315 good, it is, atrepparttar 126316 same time, contributing torepparttar 126317 erosion of an even more important cultural construct,repparttar 126318 family.

Family time is becoming sparse and scattered. Even those who work at home often lose their boundaries and find that work life and home life merge into one. Husbands and wives stop communicating, lovemaking disappears and children get shuttled from one activity to another or shunted from one ex to another.

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