Family: Parents - Who’s Looking Out For You?

Parents - Who’s Looking Out For You?

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

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Title: Parents - Who’s Looking Out For You? Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D. E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2003 by Margaret Paul Web Address: http://www.innerbonding.com Word Count: 772 Category: Emotional Healing

PARENTS - WHO’S LOOKING OUT FOR YOU? By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

I couldn’t stop thinking about Marcy after my phone session with her. I was really worried about her.

"Marcy, " I had said in our session, "Your voice sounds drained of energy and your life force feels really low. What’s going on?"

"I just have no time for myself at all. It seems like between work and driving my kids to all their activities, there’s nothing left. I’m feeling really discouraged - like I’m never going to get to do anything with my life for me. It all seems to be for everyone else. Sometimes I feel like I’m dying - and sometimes I even want to die."

This was not good. Something had to change - and soon.

As we explored repparttar 111346 problem, it became apparent that Marcy was doing way more for her kids than necessary. She was doing things for them, especially for 12 year old Andrea, that they needed to be doing for themselves.

"Every morning I go into Andrea’s room at least 15 times before she finally gets herself up. Then I make their breakfasts and lunches. The other day I felt really upset because Andrea was just sitting around while I was getting breakfast and making their lunch. When I asked her to help, she just rolled her eyes and got upset. I’m exhausted before I even get started. Then, on repparttar 111347 weekends, they want me to take them here and take them there. There’s just not enough time in a day! When I try to get them to understand my needs, they just don’t seem to care."

"Marcy, Andrea has your number. She knows if she gets upset you will back off. This is not good for you or her - you are allowing her to be a spoiled brat out of your fear of her not caring about you. They are not going to care about you until you care about yourself. They are treating you repparttar 111348 way you treat yourself. If you want compassion and understanding from them, then you need to first give yourself compassion and understanding."

Massage Your Mind!: Tongue-Biting for Excellence

Written by Maya Talisman Frost

We do a lot of thinking. We also spend a lot of time defending our ideas. In repparttar

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Let's try something new for repparttar 111345 next few days. Instead of poking at other's ideas, make two SUPPORTIVE statements about what they have to say, even if you don't agree with repparttar 111346 main idea. Find something INTERESTING about their viewpoint. It doesn't have to be positive exactly. But for this week, try to pause long enough to note interesting points FIRST.

Practice doing this when you read repparttar 111347 paper or listen to repparttar 111348 news. Pause to come up with something INTERESTING first before attacking. Even if your least favorite politician just did something idiotic. Even if your least favorite actress is quoted as saying something inane.

It's tempting to make a snide remark immediately. It's fun to sneer. Hold off. Think "interesting". And see what comes up.

Is your tongue bleeding? Are you biting it while thinking of "interesting" points first before attacking? Good job! This is a critical part of becoming an excellent human.

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