Let’s face it, not many of us have kind of skills or experience to write truly poetic wedding vows. Or do we? Here’s truth: Even if you don’t know Dylan Thomas from Bob Dylan, and you’re pretty sure T.S. Elliot was that guy who wrote words to Andrew Lloyd Weber’s “Cats,” all is not lost! In fact, there are ways to learn to write words you want. With four simple steps, you can take what you feel in your heart and make it come out as sweetly as any Shakespearian sonnet.
Step 1: Decide on a theme
Finding a theme should arguably be easiest part of writing poetry for your wedding vows. But you don’t want to be stuck with something trite or cliché, even though theme of romantic love is probably oldest known for poetry. There are lots of ways to avoid writing same old “roses are red, violets are blue” type of poem. One trick pros use is to envision what a newspaper article about your relationship would say. Would it discuss how and where you met? How your relationship has stayed strong, even during hard times? What your love has meant to one another? Since newspaper articles get right to point, this exercise can help you pick out an overriding theme for your vows.
Step 2: Allow time for reverie
No, not “revelry” (hopefully that will be what your wedding day is all about), but reverie – a quiet time devoted to a kind of dreamy meditation. Try some tricks for allowing yourself time to truly think about your poem -- and not just those things that allow you to “act like a poet.” Go for a walk alone, listen to instrumental music, or simply shut door to a room in your house and ask not to be disturbed. The most important thing to remember with any of these methods is that you don’t let other people interrupt your time.
Step 3: Choose your topic