Pain is Pain, No Matter Its FaceWritten by Laurel Aiyana
Pain and suffering have become a reality no one escapes, as sad result of living in a fallen world. We all experience it in many forms. It manifests differently for each person. Many try to compare pain and list it hierarchically in terms of worst levels of suffering, but when it comes down to it, pain is pain, mo matter its face, and Jesus died for our sins and suffering, and he doesn’t differentiate between types of pain. He is here to comfort us all. I was raised in a middle class household. I wasn’t physically abused or sexually molested, but we’re all broken, and my parents weren’t perfect, and I suffered tremendous emotional abuse as a result of their brokenness. I didn’t feel entitled to feel this pain because I hadn’t been badly beaten, etc. But, then I started hearing people say that emotional abuse can be most damaging. I didn’t quite believe it as I had heard stories of women who had been raped, others whom were victims of incest, and other horror stories. I didn’t feel that I had a right to feel my pain – that it didn’t seem to compare to some others sufferings, so I stuffed my hurts deep inside. Despite all efforts, however, pain comes out in other forms. It’s like a disease – it infects every relationship and action. One wise person told me – pain is pain. The Lord doesn’t differentiate between hurts, and only help those dealing with certain types of pain. We’re all in need of healing from our brokenness, whatever form it takes. Sometimes, I still don’t feel entitled or worthy of healing when I look at poor and impoverished, oppressed in third world countries. I keep thinking, I should be able to cope, as I have not suffered those atrocities, but I still have my own pain that must be healed, and masking it only keeps me in same state of brokenness, and I have lived with curse of bad relationships stemming from stuffed pain. We all have our Goliaths in our lives to face. They may be different for each person, same for some. But no one is immune from trials of life. We all dream of living in Garden of Eden. It’s life we were designed for, but cannot have, until Lord’s second coming. There is, however, healing available to all of us, and help in those fiery trials. Each victory demonstrates how real Jesus is in our life, and that living in promise land can happen in each of our lives. The Israelites had to fight to live in promise land. It wasn’t just handed to them on a silver platter. We all have to bring our problems to foot of cross. All healing starts there. We need forgiveness for sins, and to forgive ourselves and our human failings and brokenness, and we need to forgive others for what they’ve done to us. There’s freedom in forgiveness. Prayer and community can help us with this process. When we’re in pain and really suffering, our faith can waiver under all pressures. Sometimes, we need to have others to have faith for us during these times, to see us through. Sometimes we just need to be carried, til we can walk ourselves.
| | Chasing the Rainbows EndWritten by Laurel Aiyana
Life in 21st century is fast-paced, and dangerous. People try different ways to find a little piece of heaven in a not-so-perfect world. Different means are used by different people to chase rainbows end, and find that elusive pot of gold. We live in a fallen world. Adam and Eve’s sin cursed us all and pain and suffering entered world. To deal with hurts, western civilization often employs economic relief to ease our woes. Men are cursed to toil to live, spawning a competitive marketplace where king of hill wins. Children, at a young age, learn to play this game as well, and even when grown, same rules apply. He who gets promotion, makes most money, and has most toys wins, at least in world system. But, that old adage, that you can’t take it with you, is still a truth to spoil this road to happiness. Despite this truism, it doesn’t stop so many from seeking fulfillment through materialism, when real happiness lies within one’s own heart. I, myself, have sacrificed this part of myself, and let it get hardened by difficulties of life. I wasn’t chasing proverbial American dream. After all, I’ve been thrice divorced. The title for my life should be “Paradise Lost.” I was consumed with responsibility caring for my two children that I’ve raised alone. I was very proud of that fact too. I gave up my work that I enjoyed doing fiscal and HR work, and taught myself computers because I could make a lot more money, afford a house on my own, and buy that yellow Mustang I’ve always wanted. You sell your soul for such ambitions. Did chasing that rainbow allow me to follow my passion – absolutely not! What I ended up with, was what many IT professionals achieve – severe burnout, and a boring job that I can hardly stand to drag my butt to each morning. Alas, there is an antidote for diseased heart, after years of trying to find it searching for pot of gold at end of rainbow – I could actually follow desires within me, and redefine myself at age 41. I may be a late bloomer, and it may take a lot of work, especially since while I’m doing it, I still have to get up each morning and face monotony of day job. At least, if I follow my dreams, day goes by just a little bit faster, and I appreciate new me just a little bit more. Don’t let your sacrifices in this life be your heart.
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