Written by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein

This isrepparttar second article sharing little case studies with you about people who have discovered successful ways to get in touch with their personal enchantment, i.e. positive states of well-being uniquely suited to them. Often times they pulled from their own past experiences positive parts of themselves to rebirth and give new life to.

Having felt quite down in therapy, Frank learned to work on his difficult marriage, and to begin to redefine his own talents and potential. One night Frank talked about a remarkable insight: "I was sitting inrepparttar 126257 salesroom at work, and suddenly I had an "aha" moment. I realized that I'm definitely not a salesman at heart. I love managing, and that is what I should be doing. Instead, I've been trying to fit myself intorepparttar 126258 wrong role for years and years. I can see now that I tried to become a salesman because I thought that wasrepparttar 126259 best road to earn money. My father had been a traveling salesman, and I swallowed his definition about what a father should be, and what a husband should be. Now I see that all those 'should bes' were killing my soul.

I've already started to think about new job opportunities at work. I actually think that there might be a spot for me in another area, so that I won't have to change companies."

Frank was beginning to recognize his own needs, in this case in terms of his workday fulfillment. He is an example of someone onrepparttar 126260 road to personal enchantment, because he was willing to define his needs, and he was willing to change.

Fran says, "Getting in touch with my Enchanted Self left me feeling free in body and in spirit. I found myself passing a yard sale. I went in and bought a used cheerleader's twirling baton. I couldn't wait to get home and swingrepparttar 126261 baton inrepparttar 126262 privacy of my living room, just as I had atrepparttar 126263 age of twelve."

Beginning to Reclaim My ENCHANTED SELF - Part 1

Written by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein

Please stay with me as I share this excerpt from The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy over two weeks with you. This section revealsrepparttar way that I initially began to reclaim my own Enchanted Self.

My enchanted self was beginning to emerge, unpeeling as an onion is unpeeled, layer by layer. This is important because I think so many of us shy away from our innermost positive feelings perhaps as much as we do fromrepparttar 126256 dark shadows around us. The search for The Enchanted Self is intimate in revealing and it's scary -- and maybe people really won't understand or appreciate it. Maybe we have to fight through shame or humiliation before we find it. Maybe we won't understand or give credit to our own enchanted selves when we do! That would berepparttar 126257 most violating thing of all, if I were to find my own enchanted self and then discard it. If I can't have it anymore, because I thrown it out.

One of my first self-discoveries was recognizing my lost capacities for engaging with people without being paid. As I interviewedrepparttar 126258 women I realized how much fun I was having, how I felt on equal footing and yet privileged to be hearing their stories, how "female" I felt and how connected. I loved this wonderful opportunity to have time with women that was not social time and yet not work time, either. I began to realize how hungry I had been for this kind of "at ease time" with women. My childhood had pushed me away from such time with women. After all, I had to get out, to get going, to be competent and, often, competitive, not connected.

The second layer was feeling profoundly more connected to women, all women, than I had ever felt before. I found myself suddenly able to ally myself with and have compassion for many women, an ability which had eluded me prior to these interviews. Family members, friends, my mother, all took a softer hue.

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