Written by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein

In other weeks, you have learned many ways to get in touch with your personal enchantment. In this article, I would like to share several personal stories of enchantment with you.

Kay's happiest moments as a child were with a pencil and a sketchpad or watercolors. Her life as an adult has been very stressful: difficult teenage children, and a marriage that left much to be desired. One of her goals in treatment with me was to get back some ofrepparttar joy she experienced as a child. She consciously practiced taking time for herself everyday, in order to draw.

Talking about her vacation torepparttar 126258 Bahamas, which she went on recently, she said, "It was filled withrepparttar 126259 usual family bickering, but I'm proud of myself that every night, asrepparttar 126260 sun set, I was able to get out my sketch pad and draw. I didn't allow my family to get inrepparttar 126261 way of this wonderful part of me that I've rediscovered. Evenrepparttar 126262 first night after we got home, I got out my paints and put in some personal art time. I love being able to own my own talent, and realize that no one can interfere with it. I share everything else in my life, but my talent belongs to me alone. I love every moment of my "me" time.

Tess enjoyed making doll's clothing as a child. The feel andrepparttar 126263 sight ofrepparttar 126264 needle flying in and out ofrepparttar 126265 cloth was very soothing to her. As a young adult, she had a boyfriend who at first seemed to be a perfect match with her. But soon his negativity got her down and made her feel unhappy. She found that she was not using her artistic talents anymore. She realized that she was trying to deny certain parts of herself in order to makerepparttar 126266 relationship work. But in spite of her efforts, it just wasn't working. When Tess finally gotrepparttar 126267 courage to suggest joint therapy to her boyfriend, he declined, and after much fighting he suggested that they split up. And they did break up.


Written by Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein

This isrepparttar second article sharing little case studies with you about people who have discovered successful ways to get in touch with their personal enchantment, i.e. positive states of well-being uniquely suited to them. Often times they pulled from their own past experiences positive parts of themselves to rebirth and give new life to.

Having felt quite down in therapy, Frank learned to work on his difficult marriage, and to begin to redefine his own talents and potential. One night Frank talked about a remarkable insight: "I was sitting inrepparttar 126257 salesroom at work, and suddenly I had an "aha" moment. I realized that I'm definitely not a salesman at heart. I love managing, and that is what I should be doing. Instead, I've been trying to fit myself intorepparttar 126258 wrong role for years and years. I can see now that I tried to become a salesman because I thought that wasrepparttar 126259 best road to earn money. My father had been a traveling salesman, and I swallowed his definition about what a father should be, and what a husband should be. Now I see that all those 'should bes' were killing my soul.

I've already started to think about new job opportunities at work. I actually think that there might be a spot for me in another area, so that I won't have to change companies."

Frank was beginning to recognize his own needs, in this case in terms of his workday fulfillment. He is an example of someone onrepparttar 126260 road to personal enchantment, because he was willing to define his needs, and he was willing to change.

Fran says, "Getting in touch with my Enchanted Self left me feeling free in body and in spirit. I found myself passing a yard sale. I went in and bought a used cheerleader's twirling baton. I couldn't wait to get home and swingrepparttar 126261 baton inrepparttar 126262 privacy of my living room, just as I had atrepparttar 126263 age of twelve."

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