Written by Rinatta Paries

Hasrepparttar following ever happened to you? You are discussing an issue with your partner whenrepparttar 101973 discussion suddenly turns into a heated argument. Neither person knows what happened or how to make it better. A battle ensues and lots of feelings are hurt.

This is overreaction in progress.

If this sounds familiar, it's because most of us have been in this situation. Want to know how to deal with these types of situations and understand why they happen? Welcome to Overreaction 101.

Everyone has some painful memories from past relationships and interactions. When a person overreacts inrepparttar 101974 present it is usually because a painful memory from a past incident is being triggered.

The person whose painful memory has been triggered is no longer having a conversation inrepparttar 101975 present moment, but is reliving a past event. He or she may be having an old argument withrepparttar 101976 person who originally caused hurt feelings. Or he or she may be reliving an old hurt, feeling as if it is happening all over again.

This is whyrepparttar 101977 reaction is so strong, why it is an overreaction. It's as if a wound that just barely started to heal is ripped open, andrepparttar 101978 person is now in a huge amount of pain.

There are six steps to take in order to effectively handle a person who is overreacting. If your partner isrepparttar 101979 one who tends to overreact, apply these steps when overreaction happens, and also share these steps with him or her in a moment of calm.

If you arerepparttar 101980 one who tends to overreact, arm your partner withrepparttar 101981 six steps below to protect him or her and your relationship.

1. Have compassion inrepparttar 101982 same way you would if a real physical wound was ripped open.

A person overreacting is in real pain. Yes, they are lashing out at you, saying hurtful or inflaming things, maybe even being offensive. But these arerepparttar 101983 exact signs of a person in pain. See if you can stop from having a reaction yourself, and instead feel compassion.

2. Tablerepparttar 101984 current discussion - you will not resolve it at this point. Make a mental note to return to it soon.

A person inrepparttar 101985 middle of an overreaction is extremely unreasonable. Try as you might, there is virtually zero chance you can have a normal conversation with him or her, or get anything accomplished. However, if you try to continue a conversation with someone who is having an overreaction, you are guaranteed one outcome - a huge fight.

3. Don't takerepparttar 101986 overreaction personally under any circumstances. This is not at all about you.

Seriously - it really is not about you. No matter what is being said inrepparttar 101987 middle ofrepparttar 101988 overreaction, it is not about you. If you take it personally and get hurt over it, you are simply joining your partner in overreaction.

4. Remove yourself fromrepparttar 101989 situation.

Once your partner overreacts,repparttar 101990 topic that triggeredrepparttar 101991 overreaction needs to be tabled until a better, calmer time. Meanwhile, you need to remove yourself fromrepparttar 101992 situation temporarily to avoid feeling abused.

Organizing and Cleaning-up Your Electronic Address Book

Written by Janet L. Hall

Organizing and Cleaning-up Your Electronic Address Book By: Janet L. Hall

(Editors Note: This article includes instructions for Outlook Express, Netscape Communicator, AOL, and ACT! users).

Has your online address book become unmanageable?

Do you ever look at allrepparttar email addresses and wonder, "Who are all these people?"

Do you have difficulty locating someone in your address book that you need to send mail to NOW?

Do you know you can sort your addresses by first and last name, name, email address and more?

Set a date and time with yourself that you will dorepparttar 101972 following exercises to organize and clean-up your electronic address book.

First you want to go and view your address book, see what kind of shape it's in.

Mine, for example, had 755 email addresses. Some had first name, some last, but most of them just had email addresses. One reason for that is that I have selectedrepparttar 101973 option to automatically addrepparttar 101974 email address of anyone that sends me email (I've since turned this option off). I also found numerous duplicates and people that I didn't even know, let alone communicate with.

First let me demonstrate allrepparttar 101975 different ways you can view or sort your address book:


>>Open Outlook Express >>CLICK Tools atrepparttar 101976 top of screen >>CLICK Address Book

A new window opens and you are presented with your Address Book.

Noticerepparttar 101977 columns have headings of NAME, E-MAIL Address, Business Phone, and Home Phone. Note: Don't worry if yours are a little different.

>>Place your mouse pointer atrepparttar 101978 top ofrepparttar 101979 E-Mail Address column and CLICK. Now all your E-Mail addresses will be sorted in either ascending or descending order. CLICK again, andrepparttar 101980 reverse happens.

Each column can be sorted in ascending or descending order by placing your pointer onrepparttar 101981 top ofrepparttar 101982 column you want to sort by and CLICKING. You can also do this by CLICKING on VIEW (while in your address book) and CLICK Sort By.

Now, you can simply arrow down through each E-Mail address, deleting or editing as you go.

To DELETE an E-Mail Address:

>>CLICK onrepparttar 101983 "person" to highlight and CLICK Delete atrepparttar 101984 top of screen orrepparttar 101985 DELete key on your keyboard.

To EDIT an E-Mail Address:

>>Double CLICK onrepparttar 101986 "person" and CLICK onrepparttar 101987 NAME Tab to edit any information.

Now you might be like me, and not want to sit in front ofrepparttar 101988 computer screen to edit and delete, although you will have to do this eventually. When I was cleaning up mine, I was getting ready to go torepparttar 101989 doctors where I knew I would have to sit and wait. So I Exported my address book, printed it out, and did my editing on paper while sitting atrepparttar 101990 doctors. When I came back to my office I simply went through my edited list, deleting and editing my address book onrepparttar 101991 screen.

To EXPORT your address book:

>>While in your E-Mail Program, CLICK File and CLICK Export >>CLICK Address Book >>CLICK on Text File (Comma Separated Values) >>CLICK Export >>CLICK Browse (This is to locate what folder you are going to store it in; I use TEST, and to assign it a name; I use address book) >>CLICK SAVE

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