Overcoming Your Persistent Fears And Every Day AnxietiesWritten by Stan Popovich
Looking for all of answers in how to manage your persistent fears and anxieties? We all have those times when it is difficult to manage our stresses and anxieties. As a result, here is a brief list of techniques that a person can use to help manage their every day anxieties, stresses, and fears.
When facing a current or upcoming task that overwhelms you with a lot of anxiety, divide task into a series of smaller steps and then complete each of smaller tasks one at a time. Completing these smaller tasks will make stress more manageable and increases your chances of success.
Sometimes we get stressed out when everything happens all at once. When this happens, take a deep breathe and try to find something to do for a few minutes to get your mind off of problem. A person can get some fresh air, listen to some music, or do an activity that will give them a fresh perspective on things.
Sometimes we encounter a scary situation that gets us all upset. When encountering these events, always remember to get all of facts of given situation. Gathering facts can prevent us from relying on exaggerated and fearful assumptions. By focusing on facts, a person can rely on what is reality and what is not.
In dealing with your anxieties, learn to take it one day at a time. While consequences of a particular fear may seem real, there are usually other factors that can not be anticipated and can affect results of any situation. We may be ninety-nine percent correct in predicting future, but all it takes is for that one percent to make a world of difference.
Time Management Tips for Busy MomsWritten by Ally Moll
If you are like most moms I know you think to yourself, at least once a day, "I wish I had more time!" Most of my clients come to me at some point asking how they can get more hours in day. Unfortunately, truth is you can't. There are only 24 hours in a day and it is impossible to make more. That being said, there ARE ways you can cheat and create more time for things you want to do.
1. Prioritize! This one is especially important if you are prone to procrastinating or starting something and never finishing it. Each morning you should make a list, written or mental, of what needs to be done for day and list them in order of importance. This can be done just as you're getting out of bed or while you're having your morning coffee. If your mornings are already hectic I suggest getting up a mere 3-5 minutes early because that is really all you'll need to make this list. If you're not a morning person you can also make a list right before bed night before but then I suggest it be a written list so you don't forget anything. When making your list, try and be aware of how your body reacts. When you think of #1, your most important thing for day, does you body contract? Do you feel nervous or tense? If that's case then maybe it needs to be broken down into more manageable parts or baby steps. Don't try to do too much all at once or you'll end up getting nothing done at all! You might also consider making a second list of less important things that could be done in 5-10 minutes increments. This way, when you have a few minutes to kill between activities you won't fall into a "black hole" (see #2). Get that little bit of dusting done, throw clothes into dryer or make that hair appointment during your down time.
2. Get rid of what I call "black holes" or time wasters. Things like TV, checking your email every 5 minutes, online or computer games, and phone calls from chatty friends can be fun but they are also HUGE time wasters. According to a government census average adult watches a total of about 70 days of TV per year!!! I bet you can think of a lot more important things you could do with that time. Think about this statistic: number of minutes per week average American child (2-11years old) watches television is 1197 but average number of minutes per week that parents spend in meaningful conversation with their children is 38.5. Just spending those 70 days playing and relaxing with your children would be time better spent. Think about setting aside time each day where you turn off your TV, phone, and computer and work diligently on your to-do list. Even an hour will increase your productivity greatly.
3. Don't be afraid to say no. So many women and especially mothers have a problem with this. They think they have to do everything and be everything to everyone. They want to be "super mom" and "super friend" and "super wife". Well I bet if you talked to your kids, friends and husband you find out they'd be perfectly happy with you just being yourself. Taking on too much adds more pressure on you then you need and prevents you from working at your best which means everything will take longer to do. You will procrastinate more if you're forcing yourself to do things you don't really want to. You need to protect your time. If you're still finding it hard to say no, it might help to come up with a list of reasons you want to protect your time. What do you want to do with any free time you get? These might include time so you can do things to make progress towards your longer term goals (you do have goals, right?), spending time with people you love and care about and who nurture you, or so you can do things that bring you pleasure and joy like a walk through woods, painting, swimming or reading a good book.