The speaker, Mark Victor Hansen, compiled hugely successful Chicken Soup for Soul series of books with Co-Author Jack Canfield. He challenged assembled throng at Women's Business Conference to brainstorm 100 life goals.

Further, he encouraged us to work with a partner with whom we would swap lists. Together we would encourage each other to develop our list. We would hold each other accountable. We would help each other eventually reach these 100 life goals.

Seeing that he was where he was, and I was where I was, I decided to take his advice! How many best sellers does Mark Victor Hansen have anyway? Exactly my point! He was a best selling writer, highly paid motivational speaker, darn good dresser too! And me? I was an employee of local government who read a lot of inspiring books. The kids in my Sunday School class were motivated by my speaking. That was certainly worth something. My wardrobe? Usually bought on sale, or at end of season on clearance.

If Mark Victor Hansen got where he was by writing 100 goals? Then I figured it would not hurt to try! My co-worker and I buddied up to walk together through process.

The next day I sat at my keyboard. At first I thought I would have difficulty in thinking up goals. Soon, though, I was on a roll. My goals were as diverse as "Have lunch with a friend one time weekly" to "Host a radio talk show" to "travel to Europe". I approached my co-worker to share my list with her. I also wanted to do my part as her buddy. I knew I needed to encourage her to write her own 100 goals. She read through my list, saying "Great! Oh, and you wrote 'Learn French twice!' ". With that, she went back to tasks on her desk.

"Ummmmm.....how is your list coming, buddy?" I tried to sound as positive as I could on this one. Never sound accusatory towards your buddy, I thought

She looked out her window and replied, "My 100 goals are to get up tomorrow and next 100 days!" She laughed at her humor. Me? I didn't understand.

Then again, her dream in 5 years is to still be working in local government. Perfectly respectable. Nothing at all wrong with that goal.

At last, a simple combination of tips will completely lift Blechhhs quickly! Simply try on one or more of these methods The next time your life is taken over by a malaise of ickyness.

Let's Begin!

1. Talk it over. Make a five-minute phone call to a friend in order to sort out "what's up" in situation. Sometimes all that is needed is a quick vent session. Set intentional that venting will completely erase negative feelings. Speak. Let go.

2. Get a breath of fresh air. If you have been sitting at your Desk indoors, go outside and move around. Take ten big breaths And stretch completely lifting your arms up over your head. For once, know that no one is paying any attention. (They are Thinking about themselves majority of time.) I am actually writing this on my laptop sitting my porch. This way I get benefit of outdoors and I can keep a close watch over my little girl on her tricycle.)

3. Collect and prepare affirmations to use at times of distress. Keep these affirmations on notecards or in a special book so when You need them, they will be right there. You may choose to either Write them out a few times. Maybe speaking them works more Effectively for you. Perhaps a combination is best. Try various Methods on to see what works best for you.

4. Whenever you get a nice note or commendation from an Associate or a colleague, keep it in a file folder. I call mine my "atta girl" file. This is a great painkiller at times when blecch is overflowing. It reminds me (in memorable words of Sally Fields so many years ago) "They like me! They really, really like me!"

5. Take a moment to review what you are thankful for in your Life and work. Before you groan, simply try it next time blechhs Creep in. You can start a Gratitude or Thankfulness notebook where You actually keep a written record or you may want to just close your Eyes and think of those special things (or simple things) you Are thankful for. (As I was working on this article, I got up and Worked in my gratitude garden. It quickly refocused me so I was Able to complete my task at hand.)