Oh, Stop Your Complaining! (i-mail article)

Written by Doug C. Grant


"So...what's it going to be today? Complain or contribute?

I had not expected an i-mail from Other-Self so early inrepparttar morning. I was barely into my second cup of coffee.

But then I have no control over nagging i-mails. They arrive internally at unexpected times and demand an immediate answer. Unlike standard e-mails, they have no delete button and sit like a flashing banner ad onrepparttar 123697 monitor of my mind.

Wearily I replied, "Couldn't you have at least waited until my brain booted up?"

"Nonsense. Now'srepparttar 123698 time to set your day. So I repeat. What's it going to be? Complain or contribute?"

"I don't haverepparttar 123699 slightest idea what you're talking about. I've got eight phone calls to make...an appointment with that idiot, Bernard...letters to write...forms to fill out....and a thousand other things to do. It's going to be another of those stupid crazy days. So I'm in no mood to answer your dumb questions."

"I see. Already it's a complaint day. Too bad. You've been having so many of them lately."

"You'd have complaint days too if you had to put up with my nowhere job."

"Nowhere jobs are generally nowhere because people don't look beyond nowhere to anywhere. Which brings me to a question. What do you really want to have happening in your life?"

I hate these kind of questions. "If this is going to be one of those ‛what ever happened to your dream' lecture, stuff it. I'm too busy for a trip down fantasy lane."

"Fantasy? Is that what you call your future? No wonder you have so many complaint days."

"Yeah...well dreams don't put food onrepparttar 123700 table. And I happen to know that if you don't get your daily fill you growl a lot."

"Please hear me. I'm not suggesting you cop out ofrepparttar 123701 employment line. But making a few contributions toward your dreams couldn't hurt."

"Oh, that's really wonderful. I'm working my kazoo off to keep body and soul together. I come home at night with hardly enough energy to pick uprepparttar 123702 television remote and you want me to go out and be a world beater. Talk about fantasy, guy. You've got a first-class ticket onrepparttar 123703 trip."

"I don't recall mentioning anything about being a world beater. Just a contributor. After all, you did have dreams once."

Who's In Charge Here?

Written by Steve Pilkington


Who's In Charge Here?

My favorite author, Robert Fulghum, once wrote an essay about a small town Fire Department that responded to a second story apartment fire. Inrepparttar bedroom ofrepparttar 123696 apartment they discovered a buring bed with a man lying in it. They dousedrepparttar 123697 fire and pulledrepparttar 123698 man to safety.

After which, they askedrepparttar 123699 victim, "What happened here?" The man responded, "I don't know, it was on fire when I lay down on it!" Ah...that'srepparttar 123700 human dilemma isn't it? There are times when we simply don't understand our own behavior, let alonerepparttar 123701 behavior of others. Traditionally, preachers have stirred a lot of stink and psychiatrists' have made a lot of money over this problem.

The problem here is that we all have "life scripts" that run in our heads 24/7. These scripts pretty much govern our perception of reality. They control our internal dialogue. For example, during my growing up years I was told by many people in many different ways that I'd never amount to much...didn't have much potential...didn't have what it takes to succeed.

When I went out for football in High School my coach told me, as he handed me a new pair of cleats, "Pilkington, if you are half as good as these new shoes, boy you'll really be something." As a kid and teenager when you are told that or something similar enough times , you begin to believe it and it becomes a "life script" written onrepparttar 123702 slate of your spirit.

Once you accept a "life script" then you begin to believe it. After all, it must be true because you wouldn't lie to yourself. Or would you? What happens as you move into adulthood, having believed that "life script" is thatrepparttar 123703 past reaches intorepparttar 123704 present and determinesrepparttar 123705 future.

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