"10001 lousy ways to get everything under
sun!""200 lousy tips to get laid and be happy about it!"
"24 power pack sessions to Change your sorry life for better from Ed Kazinsk-
The- let- me -help-you-although- I-can't -help- myself- guru!"
You have heard them, you have seen them! Book stores, magazine shelves are full of self help books and manuals, videos and tapes. Even magazines such as likes of Cosmo are full of with such over zealous titles.
If this isn't enough; your In box gets filled with messages like:
"Get a bigger ^^ in less than 29 days"
"Become man/woman you have always wanted"
"Become woman every guy desires"
"For stronger erections, use %^&&"
Uhn Uhn! I see yourself shrugging your shoulder. Go on and say that you don't find this crap relevant because you happen to be really sure of yourself! Think again. How many beauty products does your dressing table hold? What shampoo are you using and how many have you changed so far? Go on count those bottles on your dressing table, that come in all sizes, shapes and colors; yellow, blue, green, teal and what not and ask yourself: "Where are lustrous locks, where is rosy complexion, where is charisma and above all where is guy?"
The self help books, articles, manuals, beauty aids, cosmetics and enhancement products are there; because they have a market, they address a hidden need of people. There are people who actually believe in all this crap and buy them religiously. All these books, tapes and courses promise you world by virtue of following steps ,tactics and products. They promise to super size your member, your bank account and your self esteem. They play upon people's desperation with their existing situation, their dissatisfaction with themselves and who they really are.
Do these self help really work, do they deliver what they promise? What about results and their reliability? Even if they work, it is only to a certain minimal and negligible extent. They don't work because they are concerned with ‘look good' factor rather than ‘feel good' factor and not other way around. You are supposed to improve largely to become like others and to impress them. You are not trying to improve yourself with your own satisfaction. If cure and confidence was supposed to come in a pint sized green bottle, then we would all have become perfect physically and emotionally.
If changing of quintessential self could work so perfectly then all of these self-help gurus and coaches, must have been leading perfect lives and would not be so desperately after our money. A few days back, I chanced upon buying a book called "A Guide To Essential Herbs And A Healthy Life Style". The author claimed that he had been using herbs in practically every form since his teen years. Now isn't some one who has been using herbs since ages supposed to look really healthy and robust, defying ravages of time? But that wasn't case with author. His picture looked like any average Joe's with a double chin, wrinkles and huge bags under eyes. If before I had resolve to drink broccoli juice because I wanted to look younger than my almost 27 years; author's picture was a big turn off.
What these self help books, articles, beauty aids really do is that they imbibe and reinforce in us a feeling of discontent with who we really are and what we actually have. "50 pounds lighter, heavier, younger, bigger, richer, sexier, sleeker and what not." Better, better and better than what we are, who we are. They mislead us into believing that we can change just about anything about ourselves that we want.
