New Year New Love

Written by Dr. Dorree Lynn

January tends to be an awful month. For many individuals loneliness increases, and they yearn to be brought to life byrepparttar passion of romance. This passionate romantic love is not just a form of love, it is an entire psychological package consisting of a combination of beliefs, ideals, attitudes and expectations. Passionate, romantic love isrepparttar 126302 single greatest energy system in a new relationship. It can drive us wild, “crazy” out of our heads. Inrepparttar 126303 short run, sex, transcendence, wholeness and ecstasy seem likerepparttar 126304 only important values in life. Inrepparttar 126305 long run, we are unaware of how contradictory ideas coexist in our unconscious minds and impact our reactions and behavior. We have automatic assumptions about whorepparttar 126306 other person is and what they are about. Blinded by love, we are over come with feelings and ignore warning signs, obvious though they may be.

Even unrealized fantasy romantic love doesn't mean just loving someone; it means we are “in love” and that somehow being connected to this other human being will forever eliminate our life's sorrows. Our unconscious belief is that our lover or spouse will always provide us with this feeling of intensity and safety.

When we are not “in love,” we spend much of our time with a deep sense of loneliness and frustration over our inability to make genuinely loving and committed relationships. Usually we blame others for “not beingrepparttar 126307 right one” or for failing us in some essential way. It takes a surprise jolt or some therapy to acknowledge that perhaps we arerepparttar 126308 ones who have to change. It is our own attitudes andrepparttar 126309 expectations we place on other people and on relationships that need fixing.

When a man and a woman first fall in love, they rarely understand that they may be as different as two species, each seeking some lost piece of themselves. For many men it is their lost feminine side---feelings of relatedness, community, a flowing of souls. They start off seeking their unlived feminine side through a particular woman and magically believe she will stay justrepparttar 126310 way she seems. Many women, who in spite of themselves idealize masculine values, feel inferior if they aren't sufficiently logical, rational, linear thinkers. They feel inferior and have poor self esteem because they intuit or feel what is going on, but can't verbalize it precisely.

In Sickness And In Health Until Death Do Us Part

Written by Dr. Dorree Lynn

A simple love story

He was young and arrogant and intent on marrying an heiress. Long black hair flying behind her, she walked into his life. He thought he was superior to her. She didn’t notice, as she wasn’trepparttar least bit interested in him. Two years later, madly in love, they married. For twenty years, they fought, loved, fought throughrepparttar 126301 night, made-up and loved. They produced two wonderful children. He went on to be successful. He kept his pain subdued with scotch. She threw outrepparttar 126302 bottles. He found new ones. They almost split, but he went to AA. And, so their marriage went.

Then she became ill and almost died. Her illness returned and she

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