Self Help: Need To Stop Worrying?

Need To Stop Worrying?

Written by Janet Male

I once worked with a woman whose zest,joy and enthusiasm lit up repparttar

room [and it was a big office!]

I remarked that it was lovely that she was always such uplifting company.

"Oh,I wasn't always like this", she replied. "It all changed when my dad died, when I was about forty."

"Was he that bad?" I asked her.

"On repparttar 128855 contray," she told me "he was wonderful." However, just before he died he made a confession:

"Darling, I have ruined my life with worry. And not one thing I've worried about has ever happened! Don't let repparttar 128856 same thing happen to you!"

Something "clicked" within her. And she kicked her worry habit from then on!

If you need something to 'click' to stop you worrying I hope repparttar 128857 following helps:

Often when a worry 'pops in' repparttar 128858 normal reaction is to try and solve it. This is fine if there is something tangible that can be done right now. However, many worries are either entirely imaginary, or a small 'problem' is blown out of all proportion.

So what happens is that you try to 'solve' what doesn't exist. The more you try and solve it repparttar 128859 worse repparttar 128860 'problem' gets.

A wise old woman once said to me "Why are you worrying what you're going to say to so and so a week on Monday? You'll be there' you'll know!"

Lets take an imaginary, but common, example:

Miss Anxious starts worrying that she may lose her job. She tries to solve this imaginary 'problem' by looking for a new job. But if she can't get another one, she'll have to sell repparttar 128861 house. And if it doesn't sell and she can't afford repparttar 128862 mortgage payements....and so on, until she's pushing a shopping cart, containing all her belongings, around repparttar 128863 streets...

A Mayonnaise Jar and Two Cups of Coffee

Written by Laura Bankston

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember this story about a mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee...

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When repparttar class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked repparttar 128853 students if repparttar 128854 jar was full. They agreed that it was.

So repparttar 128855 professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into repparttar 128856 jar. He shook repparttar 128857 jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into repparttar 128858 open areas between repparttar 128859 golf balls. He then asked repparttar 128860 students again if repparttar 128861 jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into repparttar 128862 jar. Of course, repparttar 128863 sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if repparttar 128864 jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous 'yes.'

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under repparttar 128865 table and poured repparttar 128866 entire contents into repparttar 128867 jar, effectively filling repparttar 128868 empty space between repparttar 128869 sand. The students laughed.

'Now,' said repparttar 128870 professor, as repparttar 128871 laughter subsided, ' I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.

The golf balls are repparttar 128872 important things-your God, family, your children, your health, your friends, and your favorite passions-things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

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