Music To My EyesWritten by Valerie Zilinsky
Feeling guilty about not volunteering enough at my son's elementary school this year, I signed up to chaperone their St. Patrick's Day party, a.k.a. "Irish Disco". Of course, my young daughter wanted to come along. I never thought I'd be taking my kids to their first dance at ages of four and nine!I hardly saw my son during whole party. He was hanging out with boys, and 'too cool' to sit with his mom and little sister. But it didn't bother me in least - I enjoyed two hours of watching both my children have an amazingly good time! The DJ had flashing lights, loud speakers, and most popular dancing and party music. My daughter put on her usual "shy act" for first fifteen minutes or so, until one of her favorite songs came on. It took about two seconds for her to start strutting her stuff on dance floor with girls from my son's class. There were other children her age there, but they weren't very interested in dancing. My daughter shows a true love for music and rhythm, and once she got herself moving, she was a natural! In my own childhood, I was quiet, very reserved, and shy. I would never ever get up in front of anyone and do anything that I didn't absolutely have to. I don't think I stepped onto a dance floor until I was over eighteen years old! I had a good childhood, but I do regret my bashfulness. It's so magical to me to see how truly outgoing my own daughter is now, and I will do everything possible to nurture that side of her - to keep her strong, independent, and proud of herself. I could see it on her face, that look of knowing that she was doing what felt right for her, and it didn't matter what world thought - it just felt good to dance!!!
| | The Ten-Minute MomentWritten by Valerie Zilinsky
We'll be celebrating my daughter's fifth birthday, an important milestone, in just a few short weeks. But we experienced another major event in her life just three weeks ago.With her hands on her hips and full of self-confidence, she announced to her dad on a Saturday afternoon that she was ready for him to remove her training wheels. I knew this was coming, because her and I had previously discussed it. But it still came as a shock when she actually said it. When it comes to my kids getting hurt, I am stereotypical worried parent. When my husband proceeded to completely remove training wheels, I panicked! I suggested just raising them a little bit, a mere "baby step". He had nerve to remind me that she was no longer a baby, something that I choose to ignore whenever possible, which can be difficult to do while encouraging her to grow and learn and experience new things. I was outnumbered, and training wheels were completely removed. I secured elbow and knee pads, re-adjusted her helmet to ensure proper fitting, and she ran over to her "big girl" bike. I was tempted to close my eyes or run inside, but I couldn't bear to miss a moment that was so exciting for her. Dad also raised her seat, when we noticed that she had actually gotten taller since last fall. He helped her on her bike, and started guiding her down sidewalk. They made a few trips back and forth, and I thought to myself, "Hey, this isn't that bad." I figured I had a few weeks to go before she got hang of it.
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