Moissanite Earrings, The Modern Brazilian Beetle.Written by Peter Crump
The history of earrings is a varied history indeed. And latest in long line of female body adornments known as earrings are Moissanite earrings. Moissanite is taking jewelry world by storm and moissanite earrings are no exception.Moissanite earrings, well earrings in general anyway, are a fashion with a long history. They are believed to have originated around 3000 BC. Fashioned often in gold, silver or bronze, numerous examples of earrings dating from around 2500 BC to time of Christ have been unearthed. Many fascinating examples have been uncovered from royal graves in Iraq! Earring styles have varied enormously over last 3500 years. Earrings were often buried with dead, as were many other forms of fashionable jewelry of time. This is fortunate as it allows us to determine exactly what earrings were popular at various times in our history. Around 1350 BC hoop earrings were popular which fitted inside a larger hole in ear than would normally be case. We can only imagine what it would have taken to produce hole in ear in first place! Probably a small hoop earring at first, followed by larger ones as time progressed. Earrings had styles and motifs which fitted times. For example in Greek society around second century BC earrings often displayed motifs of gods of time. And precious stones also adorned ears of wealthy women of time to display their riches. From around third to tenth century AD earrings were overtaken by head adornments which often covered entire side of face. And then for a few centuries after that long hair styles and high collars covered ears and earrings lost their appeal.
| | Indifference and Decompensation in Pathological NarcissismWritten by Sam Vaknin
The narcissist lacks empathy. Consequently, he is not really interested in lives, emotions, needs, preferences, and hopes of people around him. Even his nearest and dearest are, to him, mere instruments of gratification. They require his undivided attention only when they "malfunction" - when they become disobedient, independent, or critical. He loses all interest in them if they cannot be "fixed" (for instance, when they are terminally ill). People find narcissist "cold", "inhuman", "heartless", "clueless", "robotic or machine-like".Early on in life, narcissist learns to disguise his socially-unacceptable indifference as benevolence, equanimity, cool-headedness, composure, or superiority. "It is not that I don't care about others" - he shrugs off his critics - "I am simply more level-headed, more resilient, more composed under pressure ... They mistake my equanimity for apathy." The narcissist tries to convince people that he is compassionate. His profound lack of interest in his spouse's life, vocation, interests, hobbies, and whereabouts he cloaks as benevolent altruism. "I give her all freedom she can wish for!" - he protests - "I don't spy on her, follow her, or nag her with endless questions. I don't bother her. I let her lead her life way she sees fit and don't interfere in her affairs!". He makes a virtue out of his emotional truancy. All very commendable but when taken to extremes such benign neglect turns malignant and signifies voidance of true love and attachment. The narcissist's emotional (and, often, physical) absence from all his relationships is a form of aggression and a defense against his own thoroughly repressed feelings. In rare moments of self-awareness, narcissist realizes that without his input - even in form of feigned emotions - people will abandon him. He then swings from cruel aloofness to maudlin and grandiose gestures intended to demonstrate "larger than life" nature of his sentiments. This bizarre pendulum only proves narcissist's inadequacy at maintaining adult relationships. It convinces no one and repels many.
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