Mobbing Is Emotional Abuse

Written by Gail Pursell Elliott


Are you a mobber? Have you ever made fun of people behind their backs? Spread rumors? Played practical jokes that werenít really funny and got others to join in your laughter? Have you joined in some of this behavior thinking you were right or justified, or perhaps because you didnít want to be excluded fromrepparttar group? If you ever have done this, donít beat yourself up over it. Just be awarerepparttar 132679 next time you are tempted to treat another person in this way that this is bullying and mobbing is group bullying.

It is a Ďganging upí on someone usingrepparttar 132680 tactics of rumor, innuendo, discrediting, isolating, intimidating, and above all, making it look as ifrepparttar 132681 targeted person is responsible. As is typical of many abusive situations,repparttar 132682 perpetrators maintain thatrepparttar 132683 victim Ďdeserved it.í

Mobbing is emotional abuse that results in depression, isolation, paranoia, physical and/or emotional illness, sometimes suicide, sometimes overt acts of retaliation and aggression. Atrepparttar 132684 very least, it leaves permanent scars. Many targets suffer from post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). There is always injury.

Mobbing has no age preference, no gender preference, no race preference, and no work preference. It can happen to anyone. It can happen to you, someone you care about, orrepparttar 132685 person sitting next to you in any environment. It may have already happened to you or to someone you know and you didnít understand what it was. When a mobbing is in progress it can be one ofrepparttar 132686 most confusing situations in which you will find yourself. It is so subtle that you begin to wonder if perhaps your abusers are right and that you arenítrepparttar 132687 person you always thought you were. It shatters self-esteem. How many of us saw bullies picking on kids inrepparttar 132688 school yard while we were growing up? Everyone saw that! Sincerepparttar 132689 shooting in San Diego, after whichrepparttar 132690 perpetrator stated that he had been bullied, a huge public awareness campaign was launched. Many articles recently have been written onrepparttar 132691 subject.

Mobbing has been a household word in German-speaking countries for many years. The original research on workplace mobbing was done in Sweden, beginning inrepparttar 132692 early 1980ís, by industrial psychologist Dr. Heinz Leymann.

Two years ago, my co-authors and I published a book called Mobbing: Emotional Abuse inrepparttar 132693 American Workplace. Afterrepparttar 132694 Columbine High School incident, I developed dignity and respect communication workshops for teens and created mobbing awareness posters for schools and businesses.

The response to these efforts has been minimal. Unfortunately, people usually donít become interested in an issue until it personally affects them or threatens their immediate interests in some way. For example, we may not worry about pollution until our own drinking water is fouled. In this case, someone had to die and a finger directly pointed at this type of behavior before anyone would pay real attention to this issue, though all of us have been aware of this type of problem for years.

The response to potential violence is more reactive than proactive. Instead of creating awareness and promoting dignity and respect for all people, security systems and surveillance cameras are installed. Stiffer gun control laws are suggested. The plain truth is that many people are walking around with a deep anger inside of them and donít know why. I believe that one ofrepparttar 132695 reasons is because so many have been treated like objects rather than as unique human beings for too long. When I share this observation during a presentation, virtually everyone inrepparttar 132696 room expresses agreement.

Workaholism, Leisure and Pleasure - Part I

Written by Sam Vaknin


The official working week has been reduced to 35 hours a week in France. In most countries inrepparttar world, it is limited to 45 hours a week. The trend duringrepparttar 132677 last century seems to be unequivocal: less work, more play.

Yet, what may be true for blue collar workers or state employees - is not necessarily so for white collar members ofrepparttar 132678 liberal professions. It is not rare for these people - lawyers, accountants, consultants, managers, academics - to put in 80 hour weeks.

The phenomenon is so widespread and its social consequences so damaging that it has acquiredrepparttar 132679 unflattering nickname workaholism, a combination ofrepparttar 132680 words "work" and "alcoholism". Family life is disrupted, intellectual horizons narrow,repparttar 132681 consequences torepparttar 132682 workaholic's health are severe: fat, lack of exercise, stress - all take their lethal toll. Classified as "alpha" types, workaholics suffer three times as many heart attacks as their peers.

But what arerepparttar 132683 social and economic roots of this phenomenon?

Put succinctly, it isrepparttar 132684 outcome ofrepparttar 132685 blurring of boundaries between work and leisure. This distinction between time dedicated to labour and time spent inrepparttar 132686 pursuit of one's hobbies - was so clear for thousands of years that its gradual disappearance is one ofrepparttar 132687 most important and profound social changes in human history.

A host of other shifts inrepparttar 132688 character of work and domestic environments of humans converged to produce this momentous change. Arguablyrepparttar 132689 most important wasrepparttar 132690 increase in labour mobility andrepparttar 132691 fluid nature ofrepparttar 132692 very concept of work andrepparttar 132693 workplace.

The transitions from agriculture to industry, then to services, and now torepparttar 132694 knowledge society, increasedrepparttar 132695 mobility ofrepparttar 132696 workforce. A farmer isrepparttar 132697 least mobile. His means of production are fixed, his produce mostly consumed locally - especially in places which lack proper refrigeration, food preservation, and transportation.

A marginal group of people became nomad-traders. This group exploded in size withrepparttar 132698 advent ofrepparttar 132699 industrial revolution. True,repparttar 132700 bulk ofrepparttar 132701 workforce was still immobile and affixed torepparttar 132702 production floor. But raw materials and finished products travelled long distances to faraway markets. Professional services were needed andrepparttar 132703 professional manager,repparttar 132704 lawyer,repparttar 132705 accountant,repparttar 132706 consultant,repparttar 132707 trader,repparttar 132708 broker - all emerged as both parasites feeding offrepparttar 132709 production processes andrepparttar 132710 indispensable oil on its cogs.

The protagonists ofrepparttar 132711 services society were no longer geographically dependent. They rendered their services to a host of geographically distributed "employers" in a variety of ways. This trend accelerated today, withrepparttar 132712 advent ofrepparttar 132713 information and knowledge revolution.

Knowledge is not geography-dependent. It is easily transferable across boundaries. It is cheaply reproduced. Its ephemeral quality gives it non-temporal and non-spatial qualities. The locations ofrepparttar 132714 participants inrepparttar 132715 economic interactions of this new age are transparent and immaterial.

These trends converged with increased mobility of people, goods and data (voice, visual, textual and other). The twin revolutions of transportation and telecommunications really reducedrepparttar 132716 world to a global village. Phenomena like commuting to work and multinationals were first made possible.

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