After all, what's hotter than a partner who is paying attention? Being Right There, fully in moment, is about as perfect as it gets.

So, it comes as a bit of a surprise to me that we don't really use term "mindfulness" in relation to loving relationships--let alone love in afternoon.

This should be common, mainstream, slap-your-forehead-and-say-"Duh!" kind of knowledge. I don't pretend to be an expert on what goes on between sheets (although I did conceive and give birth to four children within five years) but I do know this: it is absolutely completely impossible to have a truly satisfying romantic sexual moment unless you are Right There in it.

Oh, sure, it's possible to experience physical pleasure when your mind is on something--or someone--other than that which shares your sheets. But we're talking about meaningful, connected, one-with-the-universe kind of lovemaking, and that, my friends, calls for Mindfulness with a capital M.

It doesn't have to be tantric. You don't have to master every kama sutra position. It doesn't need to be burn-the-house-down wild. You don't even need any props or helpful devices.

The key to overcoming shyness can be long, discouraging and difficult yet at same time it can be quite simple and very effective. It requires setting up a plan with many different goals. Now let me give you an example of a plan to start with.

Let’s say that these are four different aspects you need to work on to overcome your shyness.

1- Body Language

2- Small Talk

3- Meeting New People

4- Assertiveness

What you need to do is concentrate on one aspect at a time. If you attempt to work on all 4 categories you are guaranteed to fail and become discouraged. So let’s take simplest category, #3.