I consider myself a pro when it comes to watching mood swings. After all, I've had plenty of my own, and I have
added advantage of having four teenage daughters to observe. To be honest, my girls are not moody. In fact, our home climate is remarkably clear and sunny. That's precisely why it is so easy to watch a mood coming over
horizon.
Think about it. If you're in
middle of a storm, you can't even see
horizon, let alone remember to look that direction in order to be aware of what's heading your way. You need clear skies for that--or at least a very high cloud cover.
Mood-watching is a fascinating mindfulness exercise, and you've got plenty of high and low pressure areas of your own to keep you busy. The trick is learning how to read
ol' mood barometer.
You can do this with your own moods, but frankly, it's a lot easier to practice by watching others. In both cases, we need to learn how to recognize
signs of an approaching storm.
We tend to get in
way of understanding our own moods while we're in them. We're better at developing our mood-watching skills when we start with someone else's storm. So, let's do that.
By becoming a--key word here--nonjudgmental observer of
moods of those you love, you can learn a great deal about yourself and your own reactions. Here are seven key mood-watching elements:
#1 Take a look at
satellite map. What's coming up in
next few hours or days? A test? An interview? A break-up? A big game? A project deadline? Be aware of
high and low pressure zones and pay attention to any merging storm fronts that could result in gale force winds.
#2 Don't rely on
forecast exclusively. Sometimes
storms that are predicted on
11:00 news never materialize. It's great to know what's expected, but don't forget to check things out for yourself. Perfect storm conditions might end up as blue skies. Watch faces for signs of tension, sadness, or frustration. Watch bodies for adrenalin responses (using arms and legs to slam, stomp, pound, etc.) ASK. Offer reassurances--a soothing voice, a hand on a shoulder--that you are there and you care. And if, despite dire warnings,
storm never develops, acknowledge and celebrate that!