Mindfulness and Mood Swings: 7 Secrets For Successful Mood-Watching

Written by Maya Talisman Frost


I consider myself a pro when it comes to watching mood swings. After all, I've had plenty of my own, and I haverepparttar added advantage of having four teenage daughters to observe.

To be honest, my girls are not moody. In fact, our home climate is remarkably clear and sunny. That's precisely why it is so easy to watch a mood coming overrepparttar 128852 horizon.

Think about it. If you're inrepparttar 128853 middle of a storm, you can't even seerepparttar 128854 horizon, let alone remember to look that direction in order to be aware of what's heading your way. You need clear skies for that--or at least a very high cloud cover.

Mood-watching is a fascinating mindfulness exercise, and you've got plenty of high and low pressure areas of your own to keep you busy. The trick is learning how to readrepparttar 128855 ol' mood barometer.

You can do this with your own moods, but frankly, it's a lot easier to practice by watching others. In both cases, we need to learn how to recognizerepparttar 128856 signs of an approaching storm.

We tend to get inrepparttar 128857 way of understanding our own moods while we're in them. We're better at developing our mood-watching skills when we start with someone else's storm. So, let's do that.

By becoming a--key word here--nonjudgmental observer ofrepparttar 128858 moods of those you love, you can learn a great deal about yourself and your own reactions. Here are seven key mood-watching elements:

#1 Take a look atrepparttar 128859 satellite map. What's coming up inrepparttar 128860 next few hours or days? A test? An interview? A break-up? A big game? A project deadline? Be aware ofrepparttar 128861 high and low pressure zones and pay attention to any merging storm fronts that could result in gale force winds.

#2 Don't rely onrepparttar 128862 forecast exclusively. Sometimesrepparttar 128863 storms that are predicted onrepparttar 128864 11:00 news never materialize. It's great to know what's expected, but don't forget to check things out for yourself. Perfect storm conditions might end up as blue skies. Watch faces for signs of tension, sadness, or frustration. Watch bodies for adrenalin responses (using arms and legs to slam, stomp, pound, etc.) ASK. Offer reassurances--a soothing voice, a hand on a shoulder--that you are there and you care. And if, despite dire warnings,repparttar 128865 storm never develops, acknowledge and celebrate that!

Psycho or Jealous?

Written by Advice Diva


There are very few articles and resources addressingrepparttar topic of jealousy. I have come torepparttar 128850 conclusion that this is merely because people don't know what stance to take onrepparttar 128851 situation. Everyone has been on both sides ofrepparttar 128852 fence. Most of us have experienced a jealous lover and many of us have been in a relationship where we curiously find ourselves being insecure and jealous by nature. On one hand you want to condemnrepparttar 128853 abhorrent behavior exhibited by jealous partners while onrepparttar 128854 other hand you might be able to sympathize. I have decided to courageously announce my decided opinion. Jealousy is just another euphemism for psychotic behavior.

Without going too far intorepparttar 128855 psychology of jealousy, you should understand that jealousy is not an innate feeling that we are all born with; rather it is a learned response that people have developed over time to deal with certain situations. We all haverepparttar 128856 ability to feel anguish and emotional sorrow, and jealousy is one way we cope with these feelings. Jealousy can rear its ugly green head at any time. You never know what will set it off. Some people can be completely at ease with one lover and insanely jealous with another lover. People haverepparttar 128857 potential to get jealous for a multitude of reasons. They might have low self esteem, have been rejected or betrayed inrepparttar 128858 past or feel insecure about their body or looks to name a few.

I would venture to say that a small amount of jealousy in any relationship is normal. It might even be considered a good thing because it shows that deep emotions are tied to this relationship. But jealousy should not be confused as a sign of love. Severe jealousy isrepparttar 128859 exact opposite of love. Emma Goldman, an early 20th century writer, claimed that “Its (jealousy) one desire is to punish, and to punish as severely as possible”. She was very right. There are obvious big, bright and bold lines that are crossed all too often. You have probably dated one of these line crossers; I have dated more than enough. This is when jealousy becomes apparent psychotic behavior. Your lover begins to assume that you are cheating on some level or another and you are being dishonest almost every day. Soon you get torepparttar 128860 point where that person is doing a stake out of your home, following you around like a private eye, breaking into your email accounts, slashing your tires and smearing chocolate cake on your door (Yes, someone actually smeared cake on my door in a jealous rage). When you get torepparttar 128861 point where you can not even say one word to a member ofrepparttar 128862 opposite sex at a party because you fearrepparttar 128863 inevitable wrath which will follow from your lover when you get home, your relationship is in jeopardy.

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