Midlife, Dreams & The Questions to Ask YourselfWritten by Susan Dunn, M.A.
Midlife is a challenging transition when you tend to take stock of your life and your dreams. Make a list of dreams from your youth and ask yourself these questions about them. Then give yourself permission to let go of dreams you no longer need and make some new dreams suitable to new you and this new stage of your life!1. Was this an 'ego' dream, i.e., something you did to prove something to someone or to yourself instead of something you really wanted. Example: Getting a law degree when you didn't really want to be a lawyer. 2. Is this dream still suitable for you? Example: Wanting to be a Broadway star when you're really a homebody, hate to travel, don't like to be in spotlight, and got rid of urge by starring in local theater productions. 3. Was this dream really yours or was it someone else's like your parents, boss, manager or spouse? Example: Becoming a real estate broker instead of a real estate salesperson to please your boss. 4. Do you still want this dream? If so, is it possible? If so, is it worth price? Example: Becoming a writer. 5. Did any of these dreams come true and then turn out to be a nightmare?
| | Midlife Transition: Women & DreamsWritten by Susan Dunn, M.A.
Midlife transition is full of challenges. One thing you tend to do is start thinking about dreams. If you look back, you may wonder what happened to your dreams. If you look ahead, you may think time has passed. When you stop to reconsider dreams of your youth, dreams from first part of your life, make a list of them and then ask yourself these questions: 1. Have you outgrown this dream? Does it no longer suit you? 2. Who was this dream for? Was it really for you, or was it for parents, peers, bosses, spouse or someone else? 3. Did one of these dreams come true and turn out to be a nightmare? 4. Did having this dream come true turn out to be transitory? 5. Did having this dream come true turn out to be very different from what you expected?
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