Marriage Missing its Spark?Written by Slade Hartwell
If fires of passion in your marriage have been reduced nearly to embers, then you are not alone. One of most common problems that can damage a marriage is loss of spark…or spice, or whatever you like to call it. It’s really not so easy to get yourself or your partner “in mood” once you have become very familiar with each other. Of course, it’s wonderful to be familiar with your spouse because familiarity is basis of intimacy. But intimacy is not same as passion, is it? Routine is culprit. If proper countermeasures are not deployed against routine’s assault on your relationship, then it will drain all passion right out of your marriage. Routine is a tenacious killer of passion…a suspect in deaths of over 1 million steamy romances. I know routine comes in very handy for showers and oil changes, but it has no place in bedroom. Fight it! Fight boredom and routine! It’s going to take a little effort to rekindle those flames, but armed with right tactics you will succeed! Some of ideas I will mention may seem rather basic, and most are simple and easy. Just try them. You have already begun to make more of an effort by reading this article; now don’t just think about how nice it would be to do some of these things with your spouse…the only way for this to happen is for you to take action! Have you ever noticed how a change of venue can be very exciting? That’s right…just being together in a place that’s not your bedroom can have an almost magical effect. Use this strange phenomenon to your advantage. Get yourselves a nice hotel room on a Saturday night. First have dinner, and then go for a swim in hotel pool. Be playful and flirty with your spouse. Don’t put any pressure on them; just be affectionate and playful throughout evening together and let things happen naturally. A hand on their thigh, a whisper in their ear or a kiss on neck are all great for reminding your partner what's waiting for them. Now, go up to your room and let strange surroundings take effect.
| | Lessons About Marriage Learnt From Riding A BikeWritten by Conrad L.Jones
"Marriage relationships are similar to learning to ride a bicycle as a kid." Unwrapping The Gift Marriage is like a gift;the easiest part of marriage relationships is opening it by saying, "I do." I once heard someone say at a ceremony, "The wedding is now over, but marriage has just begun!" Now that you are in this new chapter of your life, believe it or not, it has just begun. Everytime I'd hop on that bike, I'd make it a few feet and fall off. When I first got married, our relationship seemed this way also. We'd set of on our journey, our differences would clash, and trivial arguments would erupt. You probably know what I mean. Ones like - "why didn't you put toilet seat down? Where is cap for toothpaste? I thought you said you'd take out trash? blah, blah, blah, blah, Are you listening to me?" As a kid, I really was serious about learning to ride that bike, but a decision had to be made. Was I strong enough to not give up until I could ride?, or was I gonna take easy way out and say "riding bikes isn't for me!". You've got to make these same decisions after you've said "I do". Will you keep going and work through your differences? Or will you say "let's get a divorce!". Know that all marriage relationships have good and bad days. Great marriages relationships just work at producing more good days than bad ones. "But Paul Doesn't Fall Off..." We often look at other marriage relationships and measure our progress or lack of it based on what other people have or don't have. What's misleading about this is that we base our judgements from what we see on outside, rather than knowledge from inside their lives. Sadly, we walk away and try to pattern our lives after what we've seen but, not understood.
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