by Gina Novelle copyright 06-2004 Excerpt from book “Business Secrets Men Don’t Tell Woman” by Gina NovelleSince women view this aspect of
game with such distaste, many of them try to play in
game with no broadcasting. Remember this is a strategy of
game. One must learn this skill. When to toot your own horn and how much needs to be practiced. Women tend to toot in an insecure fashion. They do it at
wrong time and for
wrong reason. Worst of all, when given
right opportunity, most just clam up.
I’ll give you examples. Our office sends clients to other consultants in
area, three of them are women, and three of them are men. Ken toots his own horn. Each time, he gets certified in new software, he lets us all know about it. He even has new business cards designed with
certification logo. He lets us know about his latest endeavors, client base, etc. The women consultants have told me they can’t stand him. Since I realized he was just advertising, I never took this as a put down. The women felt he was bragging and putting them down. There’s that “Don’t take it personal” lesson here.
Let’s just further examine Ken’s skill. I’ve been on jobs with Ken and noticed that he never loudly toots his horn to
client, only to us. When he first meets with a client, he’s confident, cool, and has done his homework. He already has information about that client’s company. He walks in, with paper in hand and at
first meeting, hands
client both his business card and brochure. He then quietly waits. That’s right; he shuts up. Wow, this is not
Ken
other female consultants see and know.
The client briefly reads
brochure and asks Ken a few questions. Again Ken’s demeanor is modest. Then that male bonding thing takes over. Oh, they both like golf, (it was in his brochure.) They have mutual clients (it was in his brochure). Okay, Ken did it. How can I compete? That’s just it. I don’t have to compete I’m there with Ken. He has all
glory at this moment. So what? This is not
time for me to spit out all my experience. However, that is just what some women do. They feel they have to say something.
Ken brought me along as his colleague. He knows he already has
client and has
confidence that I can handle
job. My turn will come with
women in
office. I don’t need to tell
client all my experience. I’m being paid just
same. That’s what I mean about timing.