When one starts out drawing map of journey of their life their are some rules to mapping this journey. "Thank Goodness for at this point I feel so overwhelmed that I don't know where to start," you say.

Ok let's begin journey of a lifetime starts with first step. Sometimes these steps are staggering and undecisive but they get stronger with each step one takes. Success is a choice. You must decide what you want, why you want it, and how you plan to achieve it. No one else can, will, or should do that for you.

So last week in Dream Impossible Dream we had already begun to take steps toward mapping this journey. Staying focused is a close relative to being decisive, but your ability to sustain your focus from beginning to end determines timing and condition of your outcomes. Again a lot depends on your belief in yourself to be able to keep on trudging when going gets rough for we all have those times when we falter in our belief that this impossible dream can come true. This is time to stay focused for if we scatter our power to wind then we cannot achieve this impossible dream. When we try and do to many things at once and push ahead when we are too tired to go any further, we lose touch with ourselves. We no longer have long talks with ourselves and see where we are in this journey. Pushing ahead does not work and then we get discouraged so now at this time we need to stay decisive and focused like little girl who knows that under that Christmas tree is doll she dreamed of or little boy who feels wind in his hair as he rides that new bike. No one could tell them that bike or doll was not there.

The speaker, Mark Victor Hansen, compiled hugely successful Chicken Soup for Soul series of books with Co-Author Jack Canfield. He challenged assembled throng at Women's Business Conference to brainstorm 100 life goals.

Further, he encouraged us to work with a partner with whom we would swap lists. Together we would encourage each other to develop our list. We would hold each other accountable. We would help each other eventually reach these 100 life goals.

Seeing that he was where he was, and I was where I was, I decided to take his advice! How many best sellers does Mark Victor Hansen have anyway? Exactly my point! He was a best selling writer, highly paid motivational speaker, darn good dresser too! And me? I was an employee of local government who read a lot of inspiring books. The kids in my Sunday School class were motivated by my speaking. That was certainly worth something. My wardrobe? Usually bought on sale, or at end of season on clearance.

If Mark Victor Hansen got where he was by writing 100 goals? Then I figured it would not hurt to try! My co-worker and I buddied up to walk together through process.

The next day I sat at my keyboard. At first I thought I would have difficulty in thinking up goals. Soon, though, I was on a roll. My goals were as diverse as "Have lunch with a friend one time weekly" to "Host a radio talk show" to "travel to Europe". I approached my co-worker to share my list with her. I also wanted to do my part as her buddy. I knew I needed to encourage her to write her own 100 goals. She read through my list, saying "Great! Oh, and you wrote 'Learn French twice!' ". With that, she went back to tasks on her desk.

"Ummmmm.....how is your list coming, buddy?" I tried to sound as positive as I could on this one. Never sound accusatory towards your buddy, I thought

She looked out her window and replied, "My 100 goals are to get up tomorrow and next 100 days!" She laughed at her humor. Me? I didn't understand.

Then again, her dream in 5 years is to still be working in local government. Perfectly respectable. Nothing at all wrong with that goal.