Somewhere between
first kiss and growing old together, many couples experience dormant growth phases during their relationship, leaving one, if not both partners with a need for greater input, emotionally and/or physically. The process of emotional growth is both independent, and uncomfortable. To ideally maintain and promote harmony, each partner must be willing to flex with growth needs of other, while also contributing to growth of relationship.
A long-lasting relationship is founded on compassion, respect, and genuine love for your partner. These qualities can – and should – be frequently expressed in a number of ways, to reaffirm value of relationship. Continuously seeking to re-invent relationship by expressing appreciation for your partner will solidify connection between you.
To nudge your relationship out of proverbial emotional drought, here is a list of suggestions for adding more passion into your relationship:
1. Reality check your partner. Before doing anything to encourage relationship, ask yourself if your partner is good for you, and why. Know basic answers like back of your hand. If you find yourself unable or unwilling to admit value in your partner, you may be in wrong relationship.
2. Acknowledge uniqueness of relationship through your partner. There is potential in every moment to experience greatest point of your relationship. Showing appreciation for your partner’s uniqueness further defines relationship based on a broader attraction. Communicate acknowledgement of individuality of your partner frequently, both emotionally and physically.
3. Make love right now. Allow sexual aspect of your relationship to evolve into an activity of ultimate fulfillment, reserved only for your partner. Instead of making love for your satisfaction, make love for your partner, and allow them to do same for you.
4. Be friends, too. Would you be friends with your partner, outside of relationship? If you find answer is “no,” don’t worry – there’s always time to make new friends. Identify activities you and your partner can do and enjoy together. Participate in a third-party project, such as charity work. Activities beyond intimacy will broaden, and therefore strengthen, foundation of your relationship.
5. Be what you want to see. Demand no more out of your partner than what you are willing to make out of life yourself. If you are capable of great things – and you are – then get to work. Be certain to test all seemingly realistic requirements on yourself, before seeking to ask them of your partner.
