WRITE YOUR GOALS DOWN

No matter what your goals are, your first step should be to write them down. Writing your goals down gives you a chance to see them on something tangible, which makes them more real. It also gives you an opportunity to think through what you need to do to get to your objective. When writing your goals down, visualize where you want to be ultimately and write out steps you would need to take to get there. For example, if you want to become manager of your department, it might require that you improve your public speaking skills and that you get noticed by higher-ups. Perhaps being able to participate in social activities like golf outside workplace but with other important people in office would help you get noticed.

Emotional Transference is an idea, first suggested by psychiatrist Sigmund Freud, that people transfer emotions they felt for other people to current relationships. According to theory, this often happens in situations where relationship structure is similar to a prior relationship, often to a relationship from early childhood such as with a mother or father. Freud noticed patients falling in love with him (their psychiatrist). Numerous studies have also shown that transference happens in boss-employee relationships. It's easy to see how: a boss has some similar characteristics to a parent, such as being a provider, point out mistakes, and giving rewards when achievements are made.