Making New Career Habits and Resolutions StickWritten by Scott Brown
Whether it's for New Years' or any other time of year, it takes discipline to change your behavior. Many people realize that new habits like attending more networking events or taking on special projects at work could help them get ahead in their careers. Yet number of people who follow through with making real changes to their habits is much lower. In this job searching tip, we'll discuss steps you can take to make sure you achieve your goals.
WRITE YOUR GOALS DOWN
No matter what your goals are, your first step should be to write them down. Writing your goals down gives you a chance to see them on something tangible, which makes them more real. It also gives you an opportunity to think through what you need to do to get to your objective. When writing your goals down, visualize where you want to be ultimately and write out steps you would need to take to get there. For example, if you want to become manager of your department, it might require that you improve your public speaking skills and that you get noticed by higher-ups. Perhaps being able to participate in social activities like golf outside workplace but with other important people in office would help you get noticed.
If you're not sure how to get a position you want, you can always try asking someone who has position already how they got it. This might require attending networking events or working your rolodex to find someone who can give you information you need.
Emotional Ties to Jobs and BossesWritten by Scott Brown
In a recent issue of Harvard Business Review, an article addressed subject of Emotional Transference in boss-employee relationships. While that article addressed it primarily from manager's perspective, I'd like to take a look at this important issue from employee and job seeker's perspective.
Emotional Transference is an idea, first suggested by psychiatrist Sigmund Freud, that people transfer emotions they felt for other people to current relationships. According to theory, this often happens in situations where relationship structure is similar to a prior relationship, often to a relationship from early childhood such as with a mother or father. Freud noticed patients falling in love with him (their psychiatrist). Numerous studies have also shown that transference happens in boss-employee relationships. It's easy to see how: a boss has some similar characteristics to a parent, such as being a provider, point out mistakes, and giving rewards when achievements are made.
However, as HBR article argued, on whole, transference is not a good thing. While it does feel good to be reminded of love we felt from our parents as young children, it is a mistake to feel that a boss would care for us in same way. Having this kind of expectation is really a recipe for relationship failure. The unfortunate thing is many bosses are subconsciously aware of this effect and try to use it to manipulate their employees. Some downsides to emotional transference include: - Reacting emotionally to situations where you should react based on business circumstances. For example, if a boss criticizes your work in a way that reminds you of something a parent did that you didn't like, you could have an emotional reaction that is more about your feelings for your parent than a reaction based on business situation at hand. - Although many bosses are good people, it is important to recognize that their primary concern is making money for company and they will not look out for you same way your parents would. Emotional transference is one reason people end up staying in jobs longer than is good for their career. Don't expect your boss to tell you when you've outgrown a job and need to move on for good of your career.