How will you make 2002 magical? Start by reviewing this passing year. Honor and celebrate all you have accomplished. Put behind you things that did not work by looking for blessings in them. Reaffirm flow of love between you and those important to you.

Below are some questions to help you discover gems of this year. Take time to answer with a few sentences each and you will free up energy to make 2002 your best year ever.

* What positive things did you learn in 2001 about relationships, work, money, life, spirituality?

Did you discover... you deserve a relationship? you can express your feelings? you can create a new career? there is an abundance of money? there may be something more to universe than meets eye?

* What have you radically changed about yourself that you thought you never could?

Have you learned to say "No?" Let go of a past relationship? Met someone new, radically different from your past partners? Become hopeful about future?

* How have you contributed to others?

Did you touch someone deeply? Help someone make a drastic change for better? Give someone gift of friendship?

* What have you accomplished that you are proud of?

Did you put an end to something that was bothering you? Start a business? Get a promotion? Begin a relationship?

* How far along are you on your path?

Are you closer than you've ever been to buying that dream home? Nearly finished reorganizing your garage? Almost ready to enter into a deep, mutually-fulfilling relationship?

* What did not work out and how was it a blessing?

Did you make a financial decision that went astray, and learn about accepting help from others? Enter into a relationship too quickly and learn to slow down?

* What do you still want to accomplish?

Having a relationship? Running a successful business? Living in a home you love?

* To whom do you need to communicate thanks, apologies or love?

Focusing your attention on self-protection prevents you from being fully present. You may miss opportunities to change outcome of situation, to play it differently, to see how it IS different. You may miss opportunities to truly connect with someone.

That's why letting go of your past - or "getting complete" - is vitally important. If you do not get complete, you will carry old pain into present and future relationships. If you do not get complete, you may perceive any situation, similar to ones in which you were hurt, as more of same. This will make most relationships difficult, and may even prevent them from forming at all.

Being complete with your past has two key benefits. First, when faced with a situation that causes you pain or resentment, you become free to choose your actions rather than reacting from fear of pain. Secondly, you no longer have an emotional reaction when looking back on hurtful situations.

Can you see why it is vital that you become complete with your past if you are to build your ideal relationship?

Here are ten suggestions for getting complete with any past hurt or resentment. Try working on a few situations at a time until you find you are complete with them.

1. Write letters. Write letters to person who made you feel resentful or hurt. Freely say everything you want to say. Write as many letters as necessary to feel complete, but do not send them. Instead, do something with them that helps you feel you are getting rid of painful feelings. Flush letters down toilet, burn them, bury them, etc.

2. Tell your story. Tell your story over and over to a trusted friend or advisor. Make sure person listening gives no advice and makes no comments to dispute your feelings, but instead allows you to talk and listens attentively.

3. Talk to right person. Talk to person with whom you feel incomplete. Do this only if you are sure this person will be able to listen to you in same way as described in #2. Make sure not to blame or be rude, but talk about your feelings and consequences in your life. If you have opportunity, have as many conversations as you need to get complete.

4. Imagine. Imagine yourself in same room as person with whom you have incompletion. Imagine them attentively listening to you while you say everything you need to say. Repeat this process many times until you are done.