Make 2002 Your Best Year Ever

Written by Rinatta Paries

May your next year be magical, prosperous and overflowing with love!

How will you make 2002 magical? Start by reviewing this passing year. Honor and celebrate all you have accomplished. Put behind yourepparttar things that did not work by looking for blessings in them. Reaffirmrepparttar 102051 flow of love between you and those important to you.

Below are some questions to help you discoverrepparttar 102052 gems of this year. Take time to answer with a few sentences each and you will free up energy to make 2002 your best year ever.

* What positive things did you learn in 2001 about relationships, work, money, life, spirituality?

Did you discover... you deserve a relationship? you can express your feelings? you can create a new career? there is an abundance of money? there may be something more torepparttar 102053 universe than meetsrepparttar 102054 eye?

* What have you radically changed about yourself that you thought you never could?

Have you learned to say "No?" Let go of a past relationship? Met someone new, radically different from your past partners? Become hopeful aboutrepparttar 102055 future?

* How have you contributed to others?

Did you touch someone deeply? Help someone make a drastic change forrepparttar 102056 better? Give someonerepparttar 102057 gift of friendship?

* What have you accomplished that you are proud of?

Did you put an end to something that was bothering you? Start a business? Get a promotion? Begin a relationship?

* How far along are you on your path?

Are you closer than you've ever been to buying that dream home? Nearly finished reorganizing your garage? Almost ready to enter into a deep, mutually-fulfilling relationship?

* What did not work out and how was it a blessing?

Did you make a financial decision that went astray, and learn about accepting help from others? Enter into a relationship too quickly and learn to slow down?

* What do you still want to accomplish?

Having a relationship? Running a successful business? Living in a home you love?

* To whom do you need to communicate thanks, apologies or love?

Have you told your family, friends, clients how much they mean to you? Shared with your partner how much he/she is treasured? Apologized where needed?

Out with the Old

Written by Rinatta Paries

Think back to a situation where you felt resentful. Or think back torepparttar last time your heart was broken. The next time you encounter a similar situation, will you be free to choose how you act, or will you instead automatically attempt to protect yourself? If you are like most people,repparttar 102050 latter is true. And why wouldn't you protect yourself if you see hurt coming, right?

Focusing your attention on self-protection prevents you from being fully present. You may miss opportunities to changerepparttar 102051 outcome ofrepparttar 102052 situation, to play it differently, to see how it IS different. You may miss opportunities to truly connect with someone.

That's why letting go of your past - or "getting complete" - is vitally important. If you do not get complete, you will carry old pain into present and future relationships. If you do not get complete, you may perceive any situation, similar torepparttar 102053 ones in which you were hurt, as more ofrepparttar 102054 same. This will make most relationships difficult, and may even prevent them from forming at all.

Being complete with your past has two key benefits. First, when faced with a situation that causes you pain or resentment, you become free to choose your actions rather than reacting from fear of pain. Secondly, you no longer have an emotional reaction when looking back onrepparttar 102055 hurtful situations.

Can you see why it is vital that you become complete with your past if you are to build your ideal relationship?

Here are ten suggestions for getting complete with any past hurt or resentment. Try working on a few situations at a time until you find you are complete with them.

1. Write letters. Write letters torepparttar 102056 person who made you feel resentful or hurt. Freely say everything you want to say. Write as many letters as necessary to feel complete, but do not send them. Instead, do something with them that helps you feel you are getting rid ofrepparttar 102057 painful feelings. Flushrepparttar 102058 letters downrepparttar 102059 toilet, burn them, bury them, etc.

2. Tell your story. Tell your story over and over to a trusted friend or advisor. Make surerepparttar 102060 person listening gives no advice and makes no comments to dispute your feelings, but instead allows you to talk and listens attentively.

3. Talk torepparttar 102061 right person. Talk torepparttar 102062 person with whom you feel incomplete. Do this only if you are sure this person will be able to listen to you inrepparttar 102063 same way as described in #2. Make sure not to blame or be rude, but talk about your feelings andrepparttar 102064 consequences in your life. If you haverepparttar 102065 opportunity, have as many conversations as you need to get complete.

4. Imagine. Imagine yourself inrepparttar 102066 same room asrepparttar 102067 person with whom you haverepparttar 102068 incompletion. Imagine them attentively listening to you while you say everything you need to say. Repeat this process many times until you are done.

5. Role-Play. Ask a trusted friend to role-playrepparttar 102069 hurtful situation with you. Have them berepparttar 102070 other person and reenactrepparttar 102071 situation. Respond how you wish you had responded. Repeatrepparttar 102072 role-play, but this time, haverepparttar 102073 other person act in a way that would have avoided causing you pain. Repeatrepparttar 102074 process over time until you feel complete.

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