I must admit to being a whole half of one of those really soppy, wonderful marriages you see on rose tinted TV.

It never really rings true with me when people say , 'I'm one half of a whole'

One of wonderful things in our relationship is fact that we are two 'wholes' that make up a great big hole (oops… whole :-)

We should, if truth be told, never have gotten married according to state of our relationship at time. We are two totally different people and from such immensely different backgrounds and upbringings that had we looked at it all logically, it would have been doomed from start.

Love, I suppose you could say, saved day!

He makes me laugh. I mean real belly aching, gut wrenching shake that no-one else finds in least bit funny, but we collapse over. He makes me feel safe. Although I am a very independent woman, he holds me tight and fights monsters when they come too close (and I love it). He tells me I'm being silly, when I am, and I sit and listen (whether I agree or not is a completely different matter). He loves coming home to me and we run and hug each other moment door swings open (we could be compared to two Labradors on first meeting) We dance at drop of a hat and don't care who's watching And we can sit quietly in each others company for hours on end.

Some of things that have changed since that day we got married have been conscious and some completely not.

Stress is defined simply as 'Change'.

Any kind of change. Be it nvironmental, Physical, Emotional or Social - Good or Bad. As human beings we are naturally resistant to any type of change. So prospect of anything in our well-defined lives changing, puts our bodies on 'Full Alert'.

Between ages of birth and 6 years old, we lay down our jigsaw puzzle of life. Our subconscious minds carve out a plan of what is acceptable, believable, achievable and realistic. From learning that putting your hand on red circle on stove is sore, to associating a raised voice with a deed deemed to be unacceptable.

This is subconscious laying out set of rules that determines survival. If you want to not only survive, but function well in world, these are rules you have to live by.

Good girls don't do that..., boys don't cry..., don't mix with them they're not our class etc etc.

Thus starts process of Stress. The subconscious will hold onto its 'Survival Jigsaw' against tremendous opposition. The moment it perceives change, defenses go up.

It is a proven fact that some of us handle Stress better than others. About 10% of population actually has a lowered capability of adjusting to change, and seeing it as a welcome challenge. The chemical imbalance in their brain causes them to be acutely aware of, and sensitive to, change. The results are Depression, Insomnia, Irritability, PMS amongst others.