Living Through Loss

Written by Margot B

Usually words can't comfortrepparttar grieving. Just being there in silence or listening is comforting. Nothing can change what has happened but being withrepparttar 131454 bereaved isrepparttar 131455 best we can do. The bereaved need companions who will truly listen and perhaps do some ofrepparttar 131456 small, everyday things that need doing--mowingrepparttar 131457 lawn, changingrepparttar 131458 oil inrepparttar 131459 car, preparing a meal-- any number of things.Grieving is normal and unavoidable--it is a part of life, and it takes time. We donít get over it, we get through it. Going through grief is a series of stages: shock, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and then acceptance, which isrepparttar 131460 first step. You must come to terms with your loss and accept that it is real and permanent. The stages of grief are not necessarily in this order, but it usually takes one or two years, or sometimes 4, 5 or more years for a person to work throughrepparttar 131461 loss of a child or spouse, as well as a divorce. The loss of a job, home, health, all require a significant amount of time to work through. There is no time frame. We canít controlrepparttar 131462 process and this makes us feel vulnerable and sensitive to outside stimuli. It needs to takes its natural course because if we try to deny our grief and keep our emotions bottled up inside, this can lead to chronic depression or physical illness. Recent research indicates that some kind of ceremonial farewell is helpful in aidingrepparttar 131463 bereaved to adjust torepparttar 131464 death of someone close. We must acknowledge publicly and formally that something significant has happened or we may find more difficulty inrepparttar 131465 grieving process.Duringrepparttar 131466 grieving process, itís normal to cry, lose your appetite, and withdraw socially. Eventually instead of living moment-to-moment with our deep feeling of sadness, we will experience these feelings intermittently. Then we can think about getting back to work, resuming our social life, doing our routine daily tasks again, such as cleaning house, payingrepparttar 131467 bills, caring forrepparttar 131468 children--even if we sometimes have to ask for help from

Easy Goal Setting

Written by Theresa Frasch

Are you forever trying to accomplish things but never seeming to get them done? You know you should set some goals but you don't know how to get started? Here is an easy way for you to set goals. Each step is represented by a letter formrepparttar word GOALS.

The GET Step

Decide what it is you want to get. Do you want to get a new car? A degree? Better at something? Do you want to get away from it all on a vacation? Decide what it is you want to get and write it down. Make a list of allrepparttar 131452 things youíd like to do and be, a list of allrepparttar 131453 places you want to go, andrepparttar 131454 things you want to accomplish.


Organize your plan. First develop a plan by listing every step that it will take to get you what you want. One easy way of doing this is to imagine yourself as having already attained your goal. Then ďlook backĒ and make note of allrepparttar 131455 steps it took you to get there. Donít worry aboutrepparttar 131456 order yet; just list as many steps as you can think of.

Now, organize your plan by prioritizing your list. Make a list ofrepparttar 131457 order that will best accomplish your goal. For instance, if your goal is to get to Hawaii you would need to planrepparttar 131458 dates before you make hotel reservations. You would need to have a plan for savingrepparttar 131459 money before you booked your plane. If some ofrepparttar 131460 items on your list look overwhelming, break them down into smaller pieces. If you want to write a book, break it down. Start withrepparttar 131461 table of contents. Write a chapter a month. Write four pages per day. Make each task manageable.


Take some action every day to move you toward your goals. Every week write downrepparttar 131462 three or four things that are most important to do to move you toward your goals and plan when to do them. Then do them.

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