Lighting the Way when Two Become One

Written by M J Plaster

Whether you want to add a little extra romance to an evening reception or a little glow to your house of worship, candles are a natural, effortless addition to your wedding theme. You'll have no trouble finding a role for candles atrepparttar wedding ceremony, atrepparttar 122037 reception, and even as part ofrepparttar 122038 floral displays.

Unity Candles

Joinrepparttar 122039 growing number of couples who include a unity candle as part ofrepparttar 122040 wedding ceremony. Perhaps you think that unity candles are steeped in a rich history of religious tradition, or perhaps you think that unity candles arerepparttar 122041 invention ofrepparttar 122042 candle makers to sell an extra candle or 10,000. Neither isrepparttar 122043 case. The exact evolution ofrepparttar 122044 unity candle is uncertain, but since it began 30-40 years ago, it seems that we have that ever-lively 60s generation to thank for yet another custom that has wormed its way into modern life.

I'd like to propose my own idea ofrepparttar 122045 unity candle's origin—an unlikely science experiment. You can perform this experiment yourself. Light two tapered candles, or use whatever candles you have handy. Noterepparttar 122046 height and brilliance of each flame. Now, joinrepparttar 122047 two flames together and look atrepparttar 122048 single flame. The united flame is taller, stronger and brighter thanrepparttar 122049 sum ofrepparttar 122050 two individual flames. Isn't that what marriage is supposed to be—a single unit stronger thanrepparttar 122051 sum of its parts?

The most traditional ofrepparttar 122052 variations onrepparttar 122053 theme isrepparttar 122054 tall, thick white candle inrepparttar 122055 center of a candleholder surrounded on each side by a white taper. Duringrepparttar 122056 wedding ceremony,repparttar 122057 bride and groom lightrepparttar 122058 center unity candle withrepparttar 122059 two tapers, creatingrepparttar 122060 stronger flame as a symbol ofrepparttar 122061 stronger unity gained through marriage.

Beyondrepparttar 122062 traditional unity ceremony, today's weddings providerepparttar 122063 opportunity for many variations, particularly second weddings that include children. If each partner has children,repparttar 122064 children may lightrepparttar 122065 unity candles. Sometimes, parents from each family lightrepparttar 122066 unity candle. You'll want to preserverepparttar 122067 moment in a picture, because it's unlikely you'll find this level of cooperation again.

Cultivating Spiritual Intimacy

Written by Omaudi Reid

When two people - destined for each other, come together, there is often an incredible amount of combustibility. Combustion occurs when two or more substances react chemically together, resulting inrepparttar giving off of heat and light; often called burning. Inrepparttar 122036 same manner, two people joined together by God can spiritually set each other on fire.

However, after being married a while that sense of combustibility can easily be lost ifrepparttar 122037 spiritual life ofrepparttar 122038 marriage is not cultivated. But, a couple that intentionally, and actively engages in maintainingrepparttar 122039 spiritual life ofrepparttar 122040 marriage continues to be a strength one to another, and ignites new sparks that blazes through every area of marriage and family. I believe that through personal devotion, mutual support, joint devotions, spiritual dialogue, and spiritual activities, a Christian couple can maintain spiritual intimacy in their marriage.

First, each spouse must keep their fire burning. Each partner keeps their fire burning by maintaining a growing and intimate relationship withrepparttar 122041 Lord Jesus, through personal prayer and Bible study. When we first got married, my wife and I mistakenly thought we could depend on each other’s spiritual life for our personal growth. I thought to myself “my wife is such a great Christian, she will be able to help me solve my spiritual struggles”. The mistake we made was instead of pursuingrepparttar 122042 Lord for our personal growth, we began to depend on each other. Eventually instead of helping, we began to drain each other. What we learned is that we must maintain intimacy withrepparttar 122043 Lord in order to have true spiritual intimacy with each other.

Once our personal lives are burning with spiritual fire, then we can conduct that heat to our partners. If you have ever touched a hot pot, then you understand what a conductor is. Metal pots are good conductors because they transmitrepparttar 122044 heat coming fromrepparttar 122045 stove. The person whose spiritual life is hot and on fire can conduct that spiritual strength to their partner. To be spiritual heat conductors we must intercede for our mates in prayer, and support them with our encouragement. An effective intercessor believes God forrepparttar 122046 success of their partner. Exercising faith in prayer for your partner is crucial. Why? Well, we know more than anyone elserepparttar 122047 strengths and weaknesses of our partners. We see their faults, joys, and sadness. Thus, not only do we haverepparttar 122048 opportunity to intimately intercede in faith for them, but also our encouragement means a lot to them. Essentially, we must be our partner’s own spiritual cheerleader – fanningrepparttar 122049 flames.

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