Life Can Seem Unfair......Until We Change Our Perspective! See How!Written by Richard Vegas
Empty, Hollow, Nothing….those words shout sound of disappointment and disillusionment of life for many people; experience of many people as they grab for possessions, power, knowledge, and sweet things of life. But, what do they find? Yeah, you guessed it, emptiness, disappointment, and awareness that Life sucks and then you die.Well, As Luck Would Have It! Have you ever heard saying, "it's all in your perspective"? Perspective! Interesting word. It means relative importance of an object in distance. Isn't that way it is with everything we pursue? How bad do we want it? How important is it? Depending on importance of your goals, you might not want to leave them to luck. Believing "only" in luck syndrome, is a quick way to develop that "life sucks and then you die" perspective. Find someone with a "life sucks" perspective and you will find someone who thinks that if they didn't have bad luck they would have no luck at all. A Thimble Full Of Something! Now, I know some things just fall in our laps! But, not always powerful, dramatic ones, and if you do get one of those huge blessings in one fell swoop, don't forget to be thankful. Or, it might not happen anymore. In fact, your perspective towards small and insignificant accomplishments in your life could help to supercharge your ability to attain more of bigger ones. And, isn't that where rub is? Isn't that what we are really yearning for? Isn't that what causes our emotions to be up and down like a toilet seat at a mixed party? We strive, we push, we burn midnight oil, and we put all our emotions behind big issues and let small ones fall by wayside. And, then it seems life comes on scene and reminds us of some small gesture, maybe a free lunch someone treated us to, or, someone backed his car up and let you have parking space at Wal-Mart. Every Cloud Has A Silver Lining! We take those little freebies like that and go on to never give them another thought. You see, life has a tendency to want us to be grateful for everything, good and bad that happens, not just dramatic ones. And, Life loves to remind us of little ones. On other side, I'm not saying you should be thankful "for" bad things that happen, but to be thankful "in" bad things that happen. For example: You just got passed up for a promotion or raise; you mean I should be thankful for that? Not thankful for it happening, but be thankful in predicament. You can't change it, you can't wish it was different, you've got short end of stick and that is that! It's a fact. So, here's a tip. Lower your perspective to every goal, desire, or major ambition you seek, and this is important, "do it at very beginning." Hear me now! This is not saying to be lazy in pursuing it like you do ones you think of as coming from luck. When you are formulating this goal, promotion, raise, whatever, ask yourself, at very beginning, how would I feel if I end up a few fries short of a happy meal in this deal?
| | No Place Like H.O.M.E.Written by Liz Sumner, Life Coach
A few years ago I was having dinner at a Hollywood restaurant with several of my husband's childhood friends-- one of whom was a movie producer who owned restaurant, and another was some big deal in music industry. I gave meaning and importance to their glamorous titles. I decided that they were better than me because they had money and celebrity. In that rarefied air I felt oversized, underdressed, and at same time puny and invisible.I can still feel outrage of my self-generated nightmare. My dinner companions may have lacked social skills necessary to help me feel at ease, but I brought powerless attitude. I'm reminded of this as I think about circumstances that bring out best (and worst) in us. My favorite way of being is exact opposite of that dinner party. I want to feel expansive, engaged with others and comfortable exactly as I am. Certain environments contribute to our success. Clients have recently told me they feel most like themselves as a gracious hostess at home; an energized team member at work; an inspiring leader at group seminar; or an artist alone in studio. If we identify qualities that make those locations effective we can choose them and build them into our lives like architectural details. With my tongue in my cheek I call them Highly Operative Me Environments. My goal is to spend as much time as possible at H.O.M.E., feeling like my me-est self-- by that I mean in my skin, true to myself, living my highest values.
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