Self Help: Let Go Of The Past

Let Go Of The Past

Written by John Colanzi

Let Go Of The Past by John Colanzi

Have you ever walked by a low fence and wondered why repparttar dog inside will run to it, but won't jump over, no matter how many times he runs to it barking and growling?

The odds are repparttar 131277 dog was placed inside repparttar 131278 fence as a puppy. He grows up seeing that fence as being higher than it is.

He learned as a puppy that no matter how many times he tries to clear it, it's just too high.

Over time he gradually tries less often, until eventually he quits trying. He just knows he'll never clear that fence.

The same thing happens to us over repparttar 131279 years. We try to reach a goal and fail.

We muster up repparttar 131280 courage to try again and fall just short of repparttar 131281 mark. Gradually that fence becomes higher in our minds, than it really is.

It's a gradual insidious process and we seldom notice it's happening. Over time that fence becomes more imposing.

Our efforts become a little less enthusiastic. We start building fences in our mind and like that little puppy we begin to break.

We begin a new goal with so many doubts. We just know we won't reach it, and so we don't.

We start thinking to ourselves, I knew I couldn't do it.

Our doubts become a self fulfilling prophecy.

The Truth About Lying

Written by John Boe

There are some people who can’t tell a lie, many who can’t tell repparttar

truth, and unfortunately, most people can’t tell repparttar 131276

difference. Can you tell when someone is pulling repparttar 131277

wool over your eyes? As children, we were raised to tell repparttar 131278

truth and taught that honesty is always repparttar 131279

best policy. We were told stories about George Washington and Honest Abe Lincoln to reinforce repparttar 131280

virtue of truthfulness. However, as we grew older, we realized that repparttar 131281

truth sometimes hurts and that few relationships could survive repparttar 131282

harsh reality of brutal honesty. To keep from hurting others, we learned repparttar 131283

usefulness of telling “white lies.” On repparttar 131284

other hand, self-serving lies can be damaging and are frequently used for personal gain or to avoid punishment.

Scientists looking for a reliable way to expose liars invented repparttar 131285 polygraph machine, also known as repparttar 131286 lie detector, in repparttar 131287 1920’s. While certainly not a perfect machine, it is estimated that repparttar 131288 lie detector has a ninety percent accuracy rate. While polygraph evidence is not permitted in a courtroom, repparttar 131289 CIA, FBI, police, and employers routinely use it as an interviewing tool. In addition to using a lie detector, many law enforcement agencies videotape interviews in order to evaluate body language gestures in detail. Gestures or expressions that occur in less than one second are called micro gestures. Micro gestures are extremely difficult to observe unless they have been recorded on videotape and played back in slow motion. Body language experts have identified and categorized thousands of human gestures and their associated meanings. It might surprise you to know that research indicates over 65% of our communication is done nonverbally. In fact, studies show that nonverbal communication has a much greater impact and reliability than repparttar 131290 spoken word.

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