Let's Get to the Bottom of Low Self-EsteemWritten by Rosella Aranda
Letís Get to Bottom of Low Self-Esteem If you suffer from low self-esteem, itís because you donít know yourself well enough to appreciate how basically wonderful you are. This is not empty flattery. It is true. Sadly, many of us are totally estranged from ourselves, from what really makes us tick. This ignorance of our true nature results in relentless self-sabotage of both our work lives and all our relationships with people. Whether you call it fear of failure or fear of success, self-sabotage can manifest in any number of ways. These behaviors run gamut from seemingly harmless quirks to extreme masochistic behaviors. Hereís a small assortment: - constant tardiness - clumsiness, accident proneness - failure to keep promises or honor commitments - staying stuck in an unfulfilling job - perfectionism - feeling like a fraud, afraid that youíll be exposed - feeling empty, hollow despite outward success - workaholism - consistently poor choice of partners - being a jack of all trades, master of none - not knowing what you want to be ďwhen you grow upĒ - life-threatening addictions - self-mutilation Self-sabotage, no matter how it sneaks in, ultimately results in not allowing ourselves to get what we want. Why? The bottom line is that we feel we donít deserve it. To overcome effects of low self-esteem, it is not enough to recognize that we have it. We need to understand WHY we have it. We must get in touch with who and what we genuinely are rather than who and what we think we are. We Must Clean Out Our Mental Filter We must sniff out internalized messages from family and society that hinder our progress. This is imperative, for it is through these core beliefs that all other ideas are filtered. We cannot just slap a new behavior or some positive thinking onto a flawed subconscious belief. Until core beliefs are rectified, our progress will be spotty and short-lived at best. We absolutely must examine how these core beliefs came into being. You guessed it. We need to go rummaging through our
New Yearís resolution during the summerWritten by Kenia Morales
Many people create their New Yearís resolution right after December 31st. That is great! But, wouldnít you be interested on getting faster results? We are in summer now. Wouldnít you like to complete your goal or advance by Christmas season? I know it will feel great, to track your own progress.
What are you waiting for? Start making your dreams a reality today while sun is out. Why while is still sunny? You are probably wondering. Observe summer days, arenít they inspiring? Donít sun rays lift your spirit? Open your shades let light in and start planning.