Lessons About Marriage Learnt From Riding A BikeWritten by Conrad L.Jones
"Marriage relationships are similar to learning to ride a bicycle as a kid." Unwrapping The Gift
Marriage is like a gift;the easiest part of marriage relationships is opening it by saying, "I do." I once heard someone say at a ceremony, "The wedding is now over, but marriage has just begun!" Now that you are in this new chapter of your life, believe it or not, it has just begun.
Everytime I'd hop on that bike, I'd make it a few feet and fall off. When I first got married, our relationship seemed this way also. We'd set of on our journey, our differences would clash, and trivial arguments would erupt. You probably know what I mean. Ones like - "why didn't you put toilet seat down? Where is cap for toothpaste? I thought you said you'd take out trash? blah, blah, blah, blah, Are you listening to me?"
As a kid, I really was serious about learning to ride that bike, but a decision had to be made. Was I strong enough to not give up until I could ride?, or was I gonna take easy way out and say "riding bikes isn't for me!". You've got to make these same decisions after you've said "I do". Will you keep going and work through your differences? Or will you say "let's get a divorce!".
Know that all marriage relationships have good and bad days. Great marriages relationships just work at producing more good days than bad ones. "But Paul Doesn't Fall Off..."
We often look at other marriage relationships and measure our progress or lack of it based on what other people have or don't have. What's misleading about this is that we base our judgements from what we see on outside, rather than knowledge from inside their lives. Sadly, we walk away and try to pattern our lives after what we've seen but, not understood.
10 Steps to Happily Ever AfterWritten by Slade Hartwell
Do you know what all happy and healthy marriages have in common? In every one of them you will find two people committed to making each other happy. You will find a man who cherishes his wife and puts her needs above his own, and you will find a wife who respects and trusts her man. We live in very selfish times. Pop-psychology messages are everywhere in media encouraging us to love ourselves, do right by ourselves, and generally please ourselves first. If you really want a happy marriage, donít buy into that type of self-centered thinking. Instead, try these 10 time-tested techniques and experience happiness, peace, and tranquility of a healthy marriage.
1. Make time for each other. Itís so easy in our hyper-busy modern lifestyles to forget to set aside a little time to enjoy each otherís company. Start a weekly tradition of setting a date for two of you to be together doing something you both enjoy. Keep it simple. Take a nice walk together. Sip coffee together in a cozy coffeehouse. Talk to each other, reminisce, and get to know each other again.
2. Take time off from each other. Give each other space and time to work on hobbies and personal interests. When you have an interesting project to work on, you will feel more fulfilled and you will be a more interesting person.
3. Make little romantic gestures. Remember to compliment your spouse. Leave a little love note for them to find once in awhile. Celebrate day you first met.Send flowers for no particular reason. You should continuously make little deposits in your spouseís emotional bank account. The return on your investment will be incredible.
4. Fight fair. Donít argue in front of other people. Donít insult each other or each otherís families. Never threaten divorce, and never go to bed angry. Let little things go, and donít make a big deal out of every disagreement. Before arguing, think; is this really going to matter in long run?