Learning From Life

Written by Charlie Badenhop


Do you ever find yourself thinking, "Life has taught me some tough lessons, andrepparttar scars do not heal easily."? This article can help you learn valuable lessons fromrepparttar 123511 past, instead of allowingrepparttar 123512 past to determine your future.

The quality ofrepparttar 123513 life we live, is based uponrepparttar 123514 learning we derive from our experiences. I know that for myself, it is sometimes easy to feel that "Life has taught me some tough lessons, andrepparttar 123515 scars do not heal easily." When I find myself thinking like this it means that I have fallen intorepparttar 123516 trap of believing that "It is ‘only natural’ that an ‘X’ type event or relationship, will lead to a ‘Y’ type response." At other times it becomes apparent that if I had somehow learned something different from a particular challenging situation,repparttar 123517 quality of my life would be much more rewarding.

In working with a client struggling with alcoholism, we spent our first session withrepparttar 123518 client telling me in detail how he had come to live such an unhealthy debilitating life. In short he said: "Both my parents were alcoholics, and both of them were physically abusive to me. I grew up never knowing what bad thing would happen next. I learned from my parents thatrepparttar 123519 best way to not have to feelrepparttar 123520 pain and uncertainty of life was to escape into an altered state of alcohol induced euphoria." When listening to a client tell such a sad story, it is easy to believe that their situation was all but preordained.

As fate would have it, a week after beginning to work with this client, I went to a business luncheon to hear an inspirational speaker discuss how we can live our life fully, and succeed in times of hardship. Indeed,repparttar 123521 speaker was truly inspirational. Whenrepparttar 123522 talk was over I waited around to thank him.

How to Increase Those "YES!" Moments

Written by Virginia Reeves


I jotted this note down from a speech I heard. Kids are imagination machines. Their world is a kaleidoscope in which reality and make-believe run together into a riot of fantastic patterns and colors. Why do so many of us lose this ability as we age?

How many of you had a delightful toy where you swiveledrepparttar end piece and bits of colored paper or plastic created new shapes continuously? Maybe you haverepparttar 123510 grown-up version using glass pieces encased in a heavier material than cardboard that you still point atrepparttar 123511 light and ooh and aah at. Perhaps it's time to go and get one as a reminder to let yourself be in awe ofrepparttar 123512 wonder of how simple changes can be made and new solutions found through a little twist.

I worked for a company that named one of their post-production special effects products "Kaleidoscope" because of it's ability to take images and merge, convert, and generally perform magic. If you watch any movies or television you have seenrepparttar 123513 amazing results that technology allows people to achieve. Think of your brain as an incredible piece of equipment powerful enough to mimic this exercise. Study after study has shown that we use just a small portion of our brain's capabilities - and much of that is onrepparttar 123514 logical and analytical portion.

Want to know how to encouragerepparttar 123515 use of your imagination to create more instances of achieving those intuitive a-ha solutions and moments of knowing that you are onrepparttar 123516 right course? That flash of insight feeling? A direct knowing or comprehension. How about that spontaneous understanding ofrepparttar 123517 how or why of something. Whether you pay attention or not is a matter of trust in yourself. Of being willing to accept that what you have just realized is valid. Even if it isn'trepparttar 123518 final solution - it's a step uprepparttar 123519 ladder to creating a better you and a new opportunity to reachingrepparttar 123520 goal you are currently pursuing.

Are you providing outlets for your creative senses andrepparttar 123521 need to stretch your boundaries? Allow yourself to feel and act beyond your typical innovative and inventive styles so an even more original strategy can evolve. This generally requires you to be willing to accept ideas from wherever they may emanate (the concept of allowingrepparttar 123522 universe to bring to you what you need and want). Is your mindset one of limitations or expansiveness? Are you willing to think bigger than "normal"? Or are your patterns of thought more inrepparttar 123523 realm of being squished inside a box because that is what you are used to?

Some people believe that you have to be very specific about what you want your outcome to be. It's true that some tasks or projects require an understanding by everyone involved. It's essentiallyrepparttar 123524 starting point from which you then work backwards to figure outrepparttar 123525 best way(s) to get to that level of achievement. This may be referred to as having a common vision or a shared sense of purpose.

I believe it's okay to be vague when you are starting out on a project. This allows you to be more receptive to possibilities. Brainstorming, mind-mapping, jotting notes, or just talking with others can stimulate your mind into new directions that you weren't even considering before. Try not to anticipate an outcome as that can be a mind closer. Another approach that may appeal to you is to consider your main topic to berepparttar 123526 eye of a hurricane and as it swirls and builds force - more and more is brought into its fury until it is finally spent and settles down.

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