LEADING OTHERS Helping People Become All They Can Be © Lee Wise 2003 All rights reserved

I have spent a good part of my life striving to encourage people. It seems as though I've always wanted to help people "win."

When I was in high school, I coached a swim team during summer months. I loved coaching...

Seeing kids improve. Helping them "win." Having fun with them. Being their friend.

One of greatest joys of my life has been "coaching" my children. I love being a dad... Watching "the kids" grow in any area of their lives. Helping them "win" at anything! Having fun with them. Loving them. Being their friend.

I have spent many -- if not most -- of my years in ministry in some sort of training capacity. I have loved... Helping people succeed. Encouraging people when I could. Inspiring people at times. Assisting them in becoming all they can be.

WHICH IS A LONG INTRODUCTION TO GET TO THIS POINT

In my own way, I have tried to encourage people. I have sought to influence them -- to help them do what *they* have wanted to do.

Maybe that's why I kinda favor, , this short quote of mine about what it means to "lead others."

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"Helping people become all they can be through your influence"

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HELPING PEOPLE BECOME ALL THEY CAN BE

I was interacting with a student other day. We were working together in an effort to establish a set of goals he wanted to accomplish for his present ministry.

After I was done communicating with this person, I realized I was following a pattern: a pattern I have gone through over years as I've tried to help people. I'm not saying I'm "cat's meow" on this subject. Far from it!

What I am saying is that maybe this simple process will assist *you* as you strive to help people become all they can be through *your* influence.

Here are steps in process:

1. Listen to people 2. Strive to capture desire of their hearts 3. Chart "action steps" together 4. Prompt them to strive towards excellence 5. Release-Guide-Release

Since you already know where I'm heading on most of these points, I'll be brief.

LISTEN TO PEOPLE

Back to my "pattern." I realized that my pattern was to listen.

That's right --> listen.

Much of my interaction with people has been trying to discover "where they are at."

What they mean by things. Allowing them to express themselves. Pausing. Asking questions to clarify.

Just listening.

Because if I listen closely I can...

"CAPTURE" THE HEART OF A PERSON

I help interns create goals for their ministry projects. It is a part of my role as their coordinator.

In process of helping them create their ministries, I have often said...

"Does this express your heart's desire?" "Forget school work. Forget this project. Just tell me this: what is your heart-beat in this?"

If I can "capture their heart" in process of writing their goals, it will give them staying power. It will help stay them motivated.

I love it!

Which leads me to next point...

CHART A COURSE OF ACTION

Sounds like a silly question, doesn’t it. But it isn’t!

I’m going to delve into world of sport to illustrate this point.

You may or may not like sport, but it is fantastic for personal development examples.

Right then, here we go…

Golf – Tiger Woods, Jack Nicklaus. Tennis – Pete Sampras, Bjorn Borg. Boxing – Mike Tyson, Muhammad Ali.

What do they all have in common?

They all expected to win, and here’s kicker, any opponent facing them expected to fail!

People attract what they think about.

This is because conscious thoughts can program subconscious mind, which in turn makes you act in a certain way, with subsequent consequences.