Lady Will Power ... It's Now or Never: An EQ Tale

Written by Susan Dunn, The EQ Coach


If you’re familiar withrepparttar lyrics to “Lady Will Power,” by Gary Puckett andrepparttar 131078 Union Gap, you understand this woman is under some pressure.

Just what is “will power”? In emotional intelligence language, we would call it Intentionality.

Emotional intelligence means being able to understand and manage emotions – yours and others’ – and to use them to make decisions, solve problems, and bring about results that work in your favor.

We think with our neocortex, and our emotions are generated in our limbic and reptilian brains. Two of our brains don’t take orders. Our “brains” are often in conflict withrepparttar 131079 other one; that’srepparttar 131080 way life is.

Intentionality is a high-level competency because it’s means saying what you mean and meaning what you say. It also means being accountable for your motives as well as your actions.

Presumably inrepparttar 131081 situation of this song, emotions are pulling one way, and “better judgment” is pullingrepparttar 131082 other way, forrepparttar 131083 woman, andrepparttar 131084 man is using intimidation tactics – “it’s now or never”. This is a conflict. Emotions will always pull more strongly than thoughts, because we need our emotions in order to survive. Fear, for instance, keeps us alive. We need to know danger immediately, and react immediately. Therefore, we’re programmed to shut downrepparttar 131085 thinking part of our brain and adrenalin forces us to act without allowing thought to intervene. If we stopped in front of a speeding car that was about to hit us and said, “Wow! Is thatrepparttar 131086 new Jetta?” we would be dead.

Memory Improvement

Written by David Rivera


A Quick Word Helps to Remember

Do you have a list you have to remember quickly? Takerepparttar first letters and form an acronym.

For example – you have to remember to send Fred, Lisa, Ethel and Andrew cards. Yes, their first initials formrepparttar 131076 word FLEA. Imagine itching (your head?) because you have a flea – you knowrepparttar 131077 first letters of their names.

Going torepparttar 131078 supermarket? Bread, butter, ketchup, onions, tuna, olive oil– BBKOTO. Not too promising? Try rearranging them – you have TB BOOK. Think of a book going throughrepparttar 131079 last act of ‘Camille’ – dying of consumption. Silly? Yes. But remember –repparttar 131080 sillierrepparttar 131081 better, it will force it to stay in your head. Now you have allrepparttar 131082 letters.

If you don’t have enough letters to form a word – try to find one that comes close. PROMPT for PRMT, FAULT for FLT and so on. You already knowrepparttar 131083 items you’re have to remember, what you are trying to do is create a reminder – once your memory is jogged,repparttar 131084 words will come back.

When you are devisingrepparttar 131085 acronym, remember to picturerepparttar 131086 items visually in your head, visualization is a strong memory technique.

Forming A Story

If you have a longer list of seemingly unrelated items, that automatically becomes a good candidate for a story.

For example:

-Glass -Horn -Cat -Onion -Melon

These words may be unrelated, but that isrepparttar 131087 point – you can combine them easily with a story that will be outrageous enough it will stay in you head – changerepparttar 131088 order if necessary – A cat is playing with a melon and all of a sudden it’s repelled byrepparttar 131089 smell of an onion that was used to seasonrepparttar 131090 melon. The cat got all excited and ran away – racing through a glass window and landing inside a big French horn.

It’s silly and childish – but that’srepparttar 131091 point, it’s silly enough to be remembered. Thinkrepparttar 131092 story through andrepparttar 131093 key words – cat – melon – onion – glass – horn – come to mind.

Of course, it’s unlikely that you’ll ever have to remember a list of words such as this, butrepparttar 131094 point is not to be afraid to createrepparttar 131095 absurd. It works.

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