Article Title: Know that ‛No' is no Way to Live Author Name: Doug C. Grant Contact Email Address: doug @dougcgrant.com Word Count:651 Category: Motivational/Humor © Doug C. Grant, 2002 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Publishing Guidelines: Thank you for publishing this article in its entirety including resource box. When possible, please notify me of publication by sending either a website link or a copy of your ezine upon publication via email to doug@dougcgrant.com --------------------------- KNOW THAT ‛NO' IS NO WAY TO LIVE (another chapter from i-mail saga)by Doug C. Grant
"You did it again, didn't you?"
"Did what?" I asked in response to another nagging i-mail from Other-Self. These annoying messages arrive internally on a frequent and unwelcome basis.
"You said ‛No,' to a party at Johnsons'."
"Of course I said ‛No',. I hate parties with strangers."
"The Johnsons aren't strangers."
"Don't play smart with me. You know what I mean. Naturally I know Johnsons. But I seldom know people they invite."
"Oh, for heaven's sake. Pull up your socks. This just opens up another opportunity for you to expand your circle of acquaintances."
"Easy for you to say. You don't have to stand around making small talk. Or listen to some half-stewed egomaniac carry on about wonderful things he's accomplished and worldly trips he's taken. I can do without that sort of acquaintance, thank you very much."
From somewhere below came a sigh of exasperation. "You always seem to miss point. Let's back up and try again."
"Why do you regularly say ‛No', to parties, meetings and other social opportunities?"
"That's a stupid question. Because I don't want to go. Is that too deep for you?"
"Why don't you want to go?"
"What are we playing here? Ring around question? I don't want to go because I don't want to go. I'm not a party animal. I'm a loner. Get it?"
"Got it. You're afraid of rejection."
"I didn't say that!"
"Of course you didn't say that. Because you don't want to say that...even to me. If you go to a social gathering, you're afraid you'll say something stupid...which you often do because you're thinking more about yourself than other people. Or you fear that you'll jump into a conversation only to have participants peel off for other groups. Worst of all, you're afraid of being relegated to a corner with only me to talk to. And that's really bad because you mumble when we talk and people don't like people who stand in a corner talking to themselves."